How many times have you come across that person that really sparks your interest and makes you want to get serious? What about that moment when you find out they’re not ready for a serious relationship, they just want to have fun, or go with the flow and see where things go. If you’re honest, how many mental gymnastics have you gone through to continue pursuing a relationship like that? You know they don’t want the same level of commitment, but you just feel like, ‘if only I hang in there long enough…’ Matthew Hussey is no stranger to Women of Impact and in this episode he’s addressing everything you need to know about commitment and why trying to commit and stick it out with someone who’s already told you they aren’t ready is not only foolish, but it’s high stakes and a total waste of your time. Matthew is the relationship expert many of you already know and love, but get ready because in this episode he’s going off to let you know how serious he is about the time you’re wasting on people that just don’t want a relationship. It’s hard truth ladies, but it’s a powerful dose of medicine you may need right now.  Make sure to check out this FREE 30 Day Challenge from Matthew Hussey to build confidence: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/challenge/  SHOW NOTES:  Committing | How dating apps and social media has made fear of commitment worse [0:59] Giving Yourself | Why it’s only painful in the wrong hands and choosing who to give to [6:36] Conditional Love | The costs involved with committing and how to assess what’s worthy [10:04] Energy Management | Protecting yourself from dating burnout from misplaced energy [13:50] Dating History | When a person’s character is questionable from their relationship history [19:00] Trust Yourself | Trust your gut and rely on people around you to make accurate decisions [24:16] Validation | Engineering answers you want to hear and not being honest about yourself [29:16] Communication | The purpose is making progress through the friction to get closer [32:39] Timing | Staying with someone not ready stunts their growth and wastes your time [41:00] Not Ready | When someone says they’re not ready what’s the best way to proceed [47:11] High Stakes | Why it’s arrogant to think you can change someone to want a relationship [50:15]  Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices