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Focus on the Family with Jim Daly

Rejecting Divorce and Choosing to Say (Part 2 of 2)

Focus on the Family with Jim Daly

Focus on the Family

Kids & Family, Society & Culture, Relationships, Parenting

4.74.5K Ratings

🗓️ 19 July 2023

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

Carey and Toni Nieuwhof’s marriage wasn’t always happy and filled with love. There was a time when they were on the brink of divorce, and though they tried to make amends, they kept falling into a cycle of fighting, anger and distance. Today, Carey and Toni say they can’t imagine considering divorce. Through their honest and vulnerable stories and advice, they’ll help encourage couples considering divorce to save their marriages and take a path toward healing. (Part 2 of 2)

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0:00.0

Any little thing could trigger me and this was one more thing on top of a long history

0:13.3

and so I became triggered and it was heated and I was frustrated and I had no idea at that

0:18.2

point whether we could ever be in love again, whether our relationship was going to work

0:22.8

out because there was such a long pattern of this negative, you know, dance that we couldn't

0:29.6

get away out of and so I did, I forced my ring off my finger and I said that's it, you

0:36.4

have it, I don't want it anymore.

0:40.4

That's Tony Newhoff describing a crisis moment in her marriage to her husband Kerry and we

0:45.8

shared part of their dramatic story last time on focus on the family and the good news is

0:51.3

they're back with us today for part two and they're going to share about how God restored

0:56.8

their relationship.

0:58.4

Her host is focus president and author Jim Daley and I'm John Fuller.

1:02.8

Tony and Kerry's story is really powerful and if you miss part one of our discussion you

1:08.2

need to get that download from us or check out the previous episode on YouTube or Spotify.

1:14.4

It was that good you need to go listen to it.

1:17.5

We mentioned last time that Tony is a family law mediator and a former divorce attorney

1:22.1

which makes her perspective about dealing with a struggling marriage very interesting and

1:26.9

insightful.

1:27.9

Her husband Kerry is an author speaker and podcaster who specializes in Christian leadership

1:34.4

and for a long time he served in pastoral ministry.

1:38.5

And the basis for our conversation is a book that Tony wrote called before you split find

1:44.6

what you really want for the future of your marriage.

1:48.2

You can find details about that book and our guess when you call 800 a family or check

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