You know what idea is ruining your life and you don't even realize it

It's what I call try harder culture

What is try harder culture? It's this idea that floats out there in the social ether.

It's one of these quote-unquote truths that sits out there in our culture that most of us absorb as

true without ever questioning it and what try harder culture says is that if you are

not living your best life according to a very

specific formula prescribed by the experts it is because you are not trying

hard enough.

That could be the only possible problem here

is your willpower, your lack of effort, that's the problem.

And it puts us in this state of just walking around in constant self-blame.

And depending on your vocation, your specific state in life, there are all sorts of specific things that people like you are supposed

to be doing to live their best lives.

And again, if you're not doing them, you're not trying hard enough.

Could be the only possible explanation.

So from the world that I'm from, moms.

Think about this, even if you're not a mom,

you know the expectations that are put on mothers. We're supposed to be great at

gift-giving for birthdays, for holidays. We're supposed to keep our houses tidy in an

order. We're supposed to spend quality time with our kids,

help them with their homework,

keep the home organized and tidy.

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