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And what my therapist says, and I'm sure your therapist says this too, is like there's

not anything actually wrong with being sad. There's nothing wrong with the feeling that

you have. It's just the way that we immediately organize it. Like this is proof that no one's

ever going to be here for me. And I'm always going to have to deal with this on my own.

Like this is proof that there's something seriously wrong with me. Like it's just when

we feel something, it's not the feeling itself that that's bad or that is like damaging.

It's the way that we organize it that exacerbates the feeling and makes it much worse because

in an ideal world, if we were a perfectly healthy person, then we would have a feeling

and that feeling would just exist without judgment. But it's the judgments that we make

and the judgments that we have of our feelings that make it so much harder because my therapist

always talks about this like there's two arrows and like the first arrow is whatever

you're feeling in the first place. So like the initial feeling is like it already hurts

to feel depressed or sad or whatever. But then the second arrow is the one you shoot

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