Time now for a refresher from my Dr. Laura Call of the Day archives.

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Michael, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. First-time caller, a long-time listener.

Your program, love the advice you give to people.

And I've taken some of it in the past, and I really appreciate what you do.

I'm a veteran as well, retired Coast Guard.

So thank you so much for what you do for vets as well.

Thank you.

You're very welcome.

My question, yes, ma'am, my question regards my wife, post-surgery from a brain surgery

that had to do with melanoma spreading to her brain.

And since then, a side effect of the surgery has been that she has increased anxiety

and a little bit of anger along with that anxiety at times, right? And I could see it building

at times where I'm trying to come up with better ways to approach her or to try to de-escalate when I do see her having those moments.

And telling her, asking her to calm down or relax isn't cutting the muster.

That seems to have the opposite effect of what I'm trying to accomplish.

So I was wondering if you had any tools or recommendations on how I could either change my

approach or...

When she's not in one of those modes, she is aware that they do happen, right?

Yes, ma'am.

And how frequently do they happen?

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