Reframing Nasty Things People Say to Victims [270]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5.0 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 9 April 2024
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
“Why do you keep bringing up the past?”
“You can't have boundaries with me. You're my wife.”
“You're too sensitive.”
“I said I was sorry. You need to accept that. Let's choose to have a good day now.”
“You think you're so perfect.”
Do these phrases sound familiar? They certainly sound familiar to me. I want to show you some ways you can combat these words your abuser throws at you, even if you’re just combating them in your own mind. You don’t even have to say anything out loud (because we all know what happens when we try to reason with an abuser/fool). You can just say these phrases I’m going to teach you in your head, and that will be enough to give you the empowerment and strength you need!
But first, let’s check out a negative review I recently received *gasp* and look to Matthew 23 to help us figure out if this reviewer is on the right track…or not.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now.com and you're listening to the |
| 0:09.3 | Flying Free Podcast, a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:16.4 | emotional and spiritual abuse. Welcome to episode 270 of the Flying Free Podcast. |
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| 1:05.0 | keep your shuckles, but help us out and help other women out by sharing this as well as |
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| 1:18.1 | they run ads. And we don't do that. I recommend my program and I recommend my books, but otherwise we don't do that I recommend my program and I recommend my books but otherwise we |
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| 1:38.8 | All right, now we're going to talk about what we want to talk about today and it's this. Recently I posted |
| 1:44.0 | something on my flying free Facebook page here's what I said I said what are |
| 1:48.5 | some of the most common shaming phrases that your partner or your ex or your church uses on you to get you to |
| 1:56.7 | feel terrible about yourself if you should happen to say no to something or to |
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