And my husband and I talk it through to the point that I think we know each other and we know ourselves so much better than we ever have and that just creates

so much more connection and joy.

I allowed myself to love someone else and realized it made me love my husband more.

Hey guys, welcome to Marriage and Martini's. This is Danielle. It's Sunday evening and Adam and I took a few days. We just went like 20 minutes away.

We had talked about in the last episode that we were going to go away to New Hope just for two very, very

quick nights and it was really nice.

It felt a little bit chaotic because we still have our boys at home and two dogs and two cats and the logistics of all that is kind of crazy

So you know it was a getaway, but it was also sort of like back and forth figuring out how is everybody getting fed and who's getting driven where when and like it was just kind of a lot even though we were

just 20 minutes away so you know it's it's a getaway but at the same time you

guys know there's still stress involved those of you who are

parents with young kids that like you don't get to just go away. Same thing I'm

sure with people with work and all the stresses that like kind of keep you connected to back home.

But it was really nice and while I was away it was after I had done the interview with

Molly Rodin Winter on her book book more a memoir of open marriage and Adam wasn't there for the interview so I don't know we talked a lot actually

about a bunch of different stuff that we don't really get to talk about for as much as we talk.

And I was asking him about open marriage a little bit and I had asked a few of my friends during the week when I knew the interview was coming up and everything and

I think Adam has more of a traditional view of you know monogamy and he sort of feels like I don't know maybe it really nice to have

sex with somebody else but also like the aftermath of it would be maybe catastrophic

again we talk about like that movie Indecent Proposal and the next day when they realize like,

holy shit, what did we just do?

Obviously, a movie and, you know, for entertainment value in different circumstances but I get that all of that and there's also a part of me that as as as sexually adventurous and as you know as much as Adam and I love

being together intimately and everything I won't. There is a part of me that will always be like, well shit, I know there are experiences in my monogamous relationship I'm never going to have.

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