A note to my listeners, the following episode includes discussion about suicide and the use of Iowasca.

Please listen with care.

You're listening to the Recovery Happy Hour Podcast. Hey guys, welcome to Recovery Happy Hour, where we talk about life beyond the bottle and what happens after we get sober.

Today I'm gonna tackle a little topic

I think we all are familiar with called people pleasing. I thought of this at the end of last week's episode and

couldn't wait to jump right into it. You know this is a common theme that I've

noticed with most alcoholics at least most that I've spoken to and I think it's just generally our nature to be people pleasers

So I'm actually going to refer to the people pleaser in this introduction as you.

So don't take offense. I'm not yelling at you.

But you might need to hear this.

So I looked at people pleasing,

and I came across a really short article on psychology today.

And they said that the eagerness to please

stems from self-worth issues.

People pleasers hope that by saying yes to everything asked of them, that this will help

them feel liked and accepted.

So what's the common theme of those two things?

One, self-loathing.

Two, a need for control.

Can any of you identify with that? I know that I certainly could. It also

says that when you're a people pleaser you feel responsible for how other people

feel. Thinking that you have the power to make someone else happy

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