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2 Be Better

Recovering From People Pleasing, Fawn Response, Nervous System, Boundaries

2 Be Better

Chris Burkett

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Society & Culture, Mental Health

4.81.2K Ratings

🗓️ 13 February 2026

⏱️ 101 minutes

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Summary

If you’re stuck people pleasing, over explaining, apologizing too much, scanning everyone’s mood, and saying yes fast then resenting it later, this episode breaks down what’s really happening and why it feels so hard to stop. You’ll learn how people pleasing often forms as a nervous system survival strategy, the fawn response, where being agreeable once meant safety, approval, or belonging. We talk through the root causes, conditional love, performance conditioning, fear of conflict, and why setting a boundary can trigger guilt, anxiety, and an intense urge to fix, rescue, or smooth things over. You’ll also get practical tools to recover from people pleasing without turning cold or selfish, including regulation skills, grounding, breathing, and simple boundary language that’s short, calm, and clear. The focus is rebuilding self trust, making your yes mean something again, and ending the cycle of obligation, burnout, and resentment in relationships. If you struggle with saying no to family, a partner, friends, or coworkers, and you want a clear framework for boundaries, emotional safety, and confident communication, this episode will give you what to listen for in yourself, and what to do next.
Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.


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Transcript

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0:00.0

And look how far we've come, all the things we've done, did it all with love,

0:09.3

beauty from the bottom of, all I want is you, you're my favorite view, but there's nothing more.

0:20.4

And we are back.

0:23.6

Welcome back BumbleBitches.

0:25.6

We are live on YouTube and Facebook publicly today.

0:28.6

Yesterday we were, we did a very short YouTube live yesterday.

0:32.6

It was under 40 minutes.

0:33.6

We were live on Patreon for almost three hours before we went live on YouTube.

0:36.6

We were both kind of exhausted and a little bit irritable. And there was a couple things that happened yesterday that I want to address before we get into what we're doing today. First of all, we were covering questions that people had asked about people pleasing and how to get over it and be better from it. You pulled out your journal. You were reading from it. You made a comment about how had like six more things that you wanted to cover. And I was like, can we do a full episode of this? I engaged

0:58.2

you with that to not shut you down, but to tell you that like this is content. Like we could make

1:04.1

an entire episode. I was trying to be helpful. I was trying to find content that we could do on

1:08.0

Friday episodes. I was trying to effectively do the job that we do.

1:12.7

It was not received very well. And I've received a whole bunch of fucking hate from it this morning

1:17.1

and last night. And what happened was not a fuck you for reading your journal. It was very much a,

1:22.5

this is what we do. We should make full length content. It's good content. And I was trying to,

2:04.8

I was trying to do the right thing by our job. I wasn't trying to shut you down. So for the people who, who tried to correct me yesterday, somebody said that the energy and you died the moment that I shut you down. There's a couple other comments that were kind of nasty. I don't agree that your energy died. I think that you were in your flow of things and you felt the way that you felt about it. We talked about that a little bit last night. And I responded to that person. I did to put a caveat on the YouTube. I penned a comment on YouTube on the video explaining everything. Hindsight being 2020 because I've slept since then. There were a whole lot of things that I could have done in that moment differently instead of just continuing the episode that I should have done that I'm aware of now.

2:09.0

So moving forward, if there's an event where something happens in the podcast that's not received well, I have steps that I intend on taking moving forward before we go back to work

2:16.2

to address what happened, try to figure out why

2:18.6

and work through things so that these things don't repeat themselves. I am a flawed, broken

2:24.4

individual and I have been working really fucking hard over the last five years of my life to

2:28.4

become a better person. I am hated consistently on the internet. I'm called a narcissist.

2:32.4

I'm told that by people every single day

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