Rebuilding Identity After Early Porn Exposure

Consider Before Consuming

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🗓️ 22 October 2025

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains brief references to childhood sexual abuse. Listener discretion is advised

Toni Collier is a speaker, author, and founder of Broken Crayons Still Color, a global women’s organization helping people process brokenness and find hope. In this episode, Toni shares how being exposed to pornography as a child led to addiction, shame, and struggles with identity—and how she’s now creating a healthier, more open environment for her kids.

She also talks about the power of community and connection in healing and parenting, reminding us that even when life feels messy or broken, beauty and growth are still possible.

This episode is sponsored by Relay, a secure peer-support app that connects you with a small group of people who understand what you’re going through and help you stay accountable on your journey to quit porn. Try it today for 20% off!

Episode Resources:

Article: Why Fighting Porn Must Include Fighting Shame
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0:00.0	If you're listening to this podcast, chances are you care about living more intentionally,
0:04.7	building stronger relationships, creating real connections, and becoming the best version of
0:09.1	yourself. But sometimes pornography can get in the way of those goals. That's why we love our
0:13.7	longtime friends and fighters at Relay. Relay is an app designed to help you align your daily choices
0:18.8	with the kind of life you actually want to live.
0:21.4	Instead of going it alone, Relay connects you with a small group of peers who encourage you,
0:25.7	challenge you, and celebrate your progress. It's about building momentum together.
0:30.1	What we love about Relay is that it's not about shame, it's about empowerment.
0:34.8	Relay gives you the tools and a supportive community all in the palm of your
0:38.1	hand so you can focus on the bigger picture, creating freedom, healthier relationships,
0:42.8	and more peace in your life. And right now, Relay is giving our listeners 40% off when you sign up.
0:50.1	Just head to joinrelay.com slash consider. Trust me, if you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, check it out.
0:57.5	That's joinrelay.com slash consider.
1:05.7	Today on Consider before consuming, we're joined by Tony Collier, speaker, author, and founder of the
1:13.6	Global Women's Organization, Broken Crayon Still Color. Tony opens up about being exposed to
1:20.2	pornography at a young age, how that experience shaped her relationships and self-worth, and the
1:26.2	steps she's taken to heal.
1:27.7	She also shares how she's raising her kids in today's digital world and why she believes
1:33.6	community is essential for both healing and parenting. With that, let's jump into the conversation.
1:40.6	We hope you enjoy this episode of Consider Before Consuming.
1:44.9	Well, Tony, thank you so much for joining me on Consider Before Consuming today.
1:48.5	I'm so excited to have this conversation with you.
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