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Welcome to the pregame.

Welcome back to another episode of the pregame.

I'm your host, Kaylyn Nicole, and today's guest is no stranger to a rose ceremony or a plot twist.

You first met her on The Bachelor,

then watched her take the reins on The Bachelorette, and somewhere between the group dates and the fantasy suites and the men fighting for her attention, she still managed to walk away

with her sense of humor intact, which honestly might be the biggest win of all. But what I love about her is she

didn't stop at reality TV. She took the chaos of modern dating and turned it into actual research.

On her new podcast, The Dating Debrief, she's sending her friends out on 13 first dates and then

bringing them back to break it all down with therapists, matchmakers, and even data scientists. So basically,

she is doing the work that I will absolutely never do for us. And I appreciate it. The Lord's

work, honey. No, thank you. The Lord's work. Today we're going to get into everything, the reality

of reality dating. Why finding love in 2020 sex feels like a full-time job with no benefits,

and whether or not we're the problem, or if the dating pool just inherently sucks, and men do too. Please welcome Rachel Reckia to the pregame, ladies and gentlemen. Woo! Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here with you. I'm so excited, girl. We're going to have a good time. I've got some wine poured for you. First things first. We have to tell people what we're drinking. We're drinking Justin. Justin Saviamblanc. Yes. Only the best. Right. Only the best for you, my I mean, thank you so much. I normally get the $5 bottle of Trito. Joe. This is a treat. This is is 20. We're working with a big budget here at Dear Media.

Thank you so much. We've got some ice cubes in there. It's really giving pregame vibes. You know what I'm saying? Absolutely. But first things first, we want to do the kickoff. Your kickoff question for the day, and you don't have to answer immediately because I have to put a minute on the clock. But the kickoff question, the biggest mistake that women make on a first date.

Okay, good set. on the clock. But the kickoff question, the biggest mistake that women make on a first date.

Okay, good set? Go. Okay. So I truly believe that women can do nothing wrong on a first date. I think if I got ready and I showed up and said nothing, I still did more than he did. And I think

they should be trying to impress us on a first date. So I really just don't think there's one

thing that you could do wrong as a woman. Yeah. What about men? What do you think men are doing wrong

on the first date? What aren't they doing wrong on a first date? Showing up, that's like the first thing they're doing wrong. A little bit jaded. But I do love love. I love that. You know, everyone is still going out there and dating despite how horrible it is out there. Yeah. But I think, you know, women put so much into getting ready, so much into showing up. Yeah. And so much work into themselves. And I think

men could do the same. Absolutely. And time. Fabulous, my dear. Can we talk about that for a second,

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