We have to be prepared that when we have these outside the bedroom conversations, which is

the majority of sex conversations, that our partner, many times, are going to immediately

go into like a panic, fighter flight mode.

Because most of us are not used to people having conversations about sex with us, that we

assume when they do, we've done something wrong, we're inadequate.

But just be prepared for that.

You're listening to Sex with Emily.

I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation

around sex.

It's frustrating but true.

Sex is an button that we can automatically turn on and off.

In fact, sex is a catch all term for a rousal, body exploration, play, and erotic collaboration.

That simply PIV penetration or penis goes in vagina.

So what do you do when you want the sex?

You need the sex, but your body isn't on board or conversely when their body isn't on

board.

On today's Ask Emily Show, we're taking a look at the body's response to sex and figuring

out what to do when it shuts down.

Say you've got a gab reflex around oral.

Does that mean no blow jobs?

Nah, I've got a trick for that.

How about vaginismus when the vulva clutch is so tightly at penetration that sex is super

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