No mud, no lotus, and this is the idea that you the lotus flower, which is the simile of enlightenment

It grows in the pond through the disgusting Iki gooey mud at the bottom, which is like gross

And in the idea that like we need muck and mud. We need compost like gardeners know we need

Disgusting cow poop and rotten veg to mom's to grow beautiful flowers

And it's the same with us like we need these difficulties. We need those difficult moments

We need all that to be able to become more compassionate

Have that perspective, you know, have compassion for our kids have compassion for ourselves. No mud, no lotus. I love that

Hi, this is Denei. I'm the founder of simple families

Simple families is an online community for parents who are seeking a simpler more intentional life

In this show we focus on minimalism with kids

positive parenting family wellness and decreasing the mental load

My perspectives are based in my first-hand experience raising kids, but also rooted in my PhD in child development

So you're gonna hear conversations that are based in research, but more importantly real life. Thanks for joining us

Hi there

Thanks so much for tuning in that voice you heard in the intro is Hunter Clark Fields

Hunter's been on the podcast before and I love her voice. She is a fellow podcaster herself

She's the voice behind mindful mama mentor and she's the author of the best-selling book

Raising Good Humans

To which she has a follow-up book coming out this summer raising good humans every day

Today she and I are discussing a topic which we both have plenty of personal and professional experience with and that's reactivity

How do we understand the nature of our own reactivity and that of our children's if you're human

You have probably overreacted to something that your kid did or something that your partner did or your boss did

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