Reactive Conversations- Episode #766
Zen Pop
Todd and Cathy Adams
4.9 • 637 Ratings
🗓️ 28 May 2024
⏱️ 69 minutes
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Summary
Cathy and Todd discuss why necessary conversations are so difficult to manage and why and how we try to avoid them. They share examples of the experiences that lead to avoidance and offer insights into developing understanding instead. They emphasize why the most challenging and reactive conversations can be pivotal for relationships and lead to greater intimacy.
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| 0:00.0 | Do do do do do do do do do |
| 0:04.9 | Do we go. |
| 0:05.9 | My name's Todd. |
| 0:06.4 | This is Gabi. |
| 0:07.0 | Welcome back to a belated episode of Zen Parenting Radio. |
| 0:12.0 | This is podcast number 76. |
| 0:14.4 | Why listen to Zen Parenting Radio? |
| 0:15.7 | Because you'll feel outstanding. |
| 0:17.8 | And always remember our motto, which is the best predictor of a child's will |
| 0:22.5 | being is a parent's self-understanding why is it belated well because we usually record on |
| 0:28.2 | mondays and it's tuesday morning but it comes out the same day so will people even really know that |
| 0:32.5 | well people who listen first thing when they wake up they're like where, where's my ZPR? I want my MTV. |
| 0:39.8 | Maybe. Was that an ad? I want my MTV. It was a slogan for MTV. Oh, slogan. So we have a few |
| 0:46.9 | different things cooking. A lot of little stuff and maybe some big stuff. I think I might want to talk a little bit |
| 0:52.4 | about... Yeah, give like a core so people know what they're listening to. Well, I might want to talk a little bit about... Yeah, give like a core so people know what they're listening to. |
| 0:56.2 | Well, I would like to talk a little bit about how to be with somebody who's triggered and reactive. |
| 1:03.8 | Ooh, good, because I'm a little triggered and reactive. |
| 1:05.7 | Okay. So maybe you can do it in real time. |
| 1:07.3 | Yeah, it's such an important thing. It's all about, you know, rupture and conflict and |
| 1:10.8 | repair and presence and mindfulness. And I think it's something that should be taught in schools, |
| 1:16.6 | but instead we learn how to calculate the surface area of a triangle or no. So when I draw triangles, |
| 1:22.8 | I need that. Triangles don't have surface area because they're two-dimensional. Good. |
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