Reactive Abuse From The Narcissist

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 13 February 2024

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever reacted to a situation in such a negative way that you end up questioning if you’re the problem? This is what we call Reactive Abuse. I had never heard of the term when I came out of the relationship with my narcissistic husband. Still, when I learnt what it meant, I was so grateful, as it meant that my reactions were a result of all of the abuse I had endured and not a reflection of my personality.

What you will learn in this episode:

What reactive abuse is and how a narcissist uses it against you.
How a narcissist will manipulate you to make it look like you’re the problem.
Why abuse often escalates after separating from the narcissist.

Reactive abuse is the equivalent of poking a bear with a stick and waiting for them to react aggressively and then trying to blame the bear for their reaction. Now, a bear probably won’t reflect on their reaction, asking themselves “Am I the bad one in this situation?” But, most humans will ask that question. As you can see from this situation, the bear wasn’t at fault, and neither were you. I hope this episode can guide you to see that you’re not the problem in your situation, and any reaction is usually because you have no other choice.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic abused and trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. I've been exactly where you are right now and this podcast is a beacon of hope for you to know that you
0:22.8	are believed, you are seen, you are heard and you are not alone. And my hope for listening to
0:29.6	the podcast is it will help you move from post-traumatic stress to post-traumatic growth
0:35.6	after the trauma of narcissistic abuse because it is possible.
0:40.7	You are enough and you deserve to thrive.
0:46.4	Hi, my friends and a massive welcome to the narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery podcast.
0:52.2	As always, it's my absolute pleasure and honor to be here with you,
0:56.3	or be it under these crazy, crazy circumstances. And whether you're on your listener,
1:02.0	maybe you're just realizing you had a narcissist in your life, well, welcome, you're not on your
1:06.1	own and you're not crazy. And of course, if you're a regular listener to a massive welcome back.
1:11.8	So in today's episode, I want to talk to you about a couple of things really, but one, a term that I think
1:17.0	is quite misunderstood and one that can leave many of us who've experienced narcissistic abuse
1:22.3	feeling like there's something wrong with us. And that is reactive abuse. You may well have heard that term,
1:28.3	you may not have, but I think you'll find this podcast really, really interesting. The other thing
1:33.0	that I want to share with you coming up soon is there's a bit of a few changes going on around
1:38.1	the podcast. That doesn't mean anything's going to change from the content or anything else,
1:42.7	but I'm having a bit of a rebrand.
1:44.9	So the name is going to be changing really soon from this podcast, from narcissistic abuse and
1:49.2	trauma recovery podcast to trauma and narcissism redefined. And one of the reasons I wanted to change
1:55.7	the name was many people that I work with around narcissistic abuse, so much of it underpinning is around
2:02.9	trauma. And that means that many people find themselves stuck in diagnosis like borderline
2:07.7	personality disorder, PTSD, complex PTSD, anxiety, depression. And I really wanted to create
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