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Win Make Give with Ben Kinney

Reaching Your Full Potential: Karen Tilstra's Advice on Facing Your Fears

Win Make Give with Ben Kinney

Ben Kinney Training

Education, Self-improvement

4.9 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 24 July 2023

⏱️ 42 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

We all have fears that drive how we think and behave. If we don't acknowledge them, they kill our potential. In this episode, Bob Stewart and Chad Hyams discuss identifying and managing deathlines, a term coined by Educational Psychologist, co-founder of Creativity Effect, and author of "The Deathline: Stopping the #1 All-Time Killer of Human Potential," Karen Tilstra.

In this episode, we cover the following:

  • What is the deathline? [4:07]  
  • Why do we set deathlines? [6:05]
  • Why do we get caught up in fear, shame, and rejection? [6:50]
  • Is your deathline really keeping you safe? [11:00]
  • The gateway to improvement [12:35]
  • Identifying your deathlines [13:52]
  • The tollbooth technique for dealing with deathlines [14:35]
  • Are deathlines killing your potential? [18:00]
  • Physical and social deathlines [19:20]
  • Pause, breathe, and ask yourself what is going on [21:40]
  • Learning how to work with things [23:05]
  • Commonalities with deathlines [26:03]
  • Creating shared experiences [29:05]
  • How the "Yes, And" game creates possibilities [33:08]
  • The four ace words: space, grace, pace, and place [35:25]
  • Behaviors and deathlines [37:44]
  • Operating life at a manageable pace [35:53]
  • Strengthening your listening skills [40:11]
  • Managing your pace [42:48]

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the win, make give podcast. Chad Himes here. Bob Stewart there. Bob, how are you doing today?

0:14.4

I'm doing pretty good. So we have our guest. We'll bring Karen on in a minute, but she was kind of joking or

0:21.8

she had a hard time getting into the room that we recorded and she had said she's giggling. She had said

0:27.9

I'm a grandma. But Karen, I will tell you, I'm not a grandpa yet, but Chad and I have this thing. We're

0:34.3

both like I'm in my mid and getting towards my late 40s. Chad's in his just hit 50. We're at this point

0:39.7

in our life where we get it now. We're like, yeah, I don't want to learn that new TikTok thing or

0:46.2

I don't want to, right? So we're like, we're cresting that that place where you get to the spot where

0:51.0

you're like, I don't want to learn that anymore. Like I don't want to learn all that newfangled tech and

0:54.9

right? You start to maybe appreciate that. Anyway, something changes then. That's what I've learned. Yeah, yeah, I know.

1:02.9

And it's like, no, it changed. I'm just glad they solved the VCR 12 o'clock blinking problem, right? I'm

1:09.7

just glad that one's on it. And had we solved that, Bob, we got rid of VCRs, right? That's how we

1:15.0

solved it. We said, these things are too annoying. We can't figure out the clock yet rid of them. All right,

1:19.7

so you've already, you've already mentioned Karen, you've already brought her up. Bob, look, we,

1:24.3

we search for great guests to bring on and some of them we go after, right? John Gordon, I chased

1:30.8

for a while, things like some of them come to us. David Nurse was promoting a book and came to us

1:35.4

who's become a regular on the show. I got a pitch from someone who wanted us to talk to our guest

1:42.2

today, um, Dr. Karen Killstra and I was like, I don't know. I started reading and then it said

1:50.3

author of the book, the death line. And I was like, yeah, I don't need to read anymore. I want her

1:58.4

because I got to know what that is all about. So welcome to the win-make-you podcast, Karen.

2:04.2

Well, thank you very much. Yeah, the deadline. Awesome. Yes, and we're going to hear all about it.

2:10.0

Yeah, Karen, we don't do bios here. We don't read them. We don't, we don't want all that stuff

2:15.2

that some had an artificial intelligence program right to make them sound great. We want to know

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