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<p>In her critically acclaimed Showtime docuseries, Couples Therapy, clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr. Orna Guralnik thinks deeply about relationships, emotions, and connection. In this episode, Dr. Guralnik explains why she believes psychoanalysis helps us love better, dispels myths about the right time to go to therapy, and gives tips on how to unblock our relationship with the world around us. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts</p>

Re-release: Why love –and therapy– means going in a direction you don’t yet know (w/ Dr. Orna Guralnik)

Collective. Hey everyone, we wanted to share a special episode from the archive today.

You're listening to How to Be a Better Human.

I am fascinated by other people's relationships,

specifically their marriages and their dating lives.

It's mind-blowing to me that one of the most common and day-to-day building blocks of our society is also so

completely opaque from the outside. Is that couple just like us or are they doing things completely? so completely

I'm also fascinated by relationships because even in good ones there's so much to think about

and to work on. For example, I'm a big talker and I come from a family where we're

always yapping away interrupting each other constantly laughing and chatting at the dinner table.

And my wife and her family, they're much more reserved.

So it took me a long time, I'm talking years, before I could finally start to trust that if she was eating and not also talking,

it wasn't because she was silently fuming at me.

Even now, if we're in the car on a long drive and she's having a quiet moment,

I sometimes have to check, you're just being quiet right now, right?

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0:00.0	Ted Audio Collective.
0:05.0	Collective. Hey everyone, we wanted to share a special episode from the archive today.
0:10.0	Here's one of our favorites.
0:12.0	I hope you enjoy.
0:15.0	You're listening to How to Be a Better Human.
0:17.0	I'm your host Chris Duffy.
0:19.0	I am fascinated by other people's relationships,
0:22.0	specifically their marriages and their dating lives.
0:24.0	It's mind-blowing to me that one of the most common and day-to-day building blocks of our society is also so
0:30.2	completely opaque from the outside. Is that couple just like us or are they doing things completely? so completely
0:35.0	wrong.
0:39.0	wrong.
0:40.0	I'm also fascinated by relationships
0:41.0	I'm also fascinated by relationships because even in good ones there's so much to think about
0:45.3	and to work on. For example, I'm a big talker and I come from a family where we're
0:50.0	always yapping away interrupting each other constantly laughing and chatting at the dinner table.
0:54.9	And my wife and her family, they're much more reserved.
0:58.0	So it took me a long time, I'm talking years, before I could finally start to trust that if she was eating and not also talking,
1:05.0	it wasn't because she was silently fuming at me.
1:08.0	Even now, if we're in the car on a long drive and she's having a quiet moment,
1:11.0	I sometimes have to check, you're just being quiet right now, right?
1:14.1	You're not angry at me?
	...

Re-release: Why love –and therapy– means going in a direction you don’t yet know (w/ Dr. Orna Guralnik)

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