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So I know we were all raised in different ways of different families, but the way I was raised

was that the man in the relationship is ultimately responsible for the relationship,

which seems like a terrible idea because we're so bad at relationships.

But that's how I was raised, and again, that's just how I was raised, but the way I internalized

that growing up and even moving into marriage was that if anything went wrong in the relationship

that ultimately somehow, it was my fault. And I say somehow, because sometimes it takes me

a few minutes to figure out how it's my fault. So in our marriage, it goes like this and just like,

Andy, I'm so sorry, you know, I should have told you, Andy, you know, and I'm like,

oh, no, it's my fault. It's my fault. She's like, how's that your fault? And I'm like, I don't know,

just give me a minute. I'll come up with something. I just feel this. Again, I don't know if it's healthy

and this isn't marriage advice, this is just me. And so through the years, I have a default. So when

I can't figure out how what she did or what she was apologizing for is ultimately my fault,

I default to this. Well, if I hadn't asked you to marry me in the first place,

this would have never happened. Again, I'm not suggesting this as a habit or pattern. This is just

this is just us. And the reason I bring it up is this is we kind of jump into the content today.

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