Today we have Bethany. She is 34 from Michigan and took her last drink in January of 2021.

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[2:15] Highlights from Kris:

 

Kris enjoys living in a small town where everyone helps one another, and the pace is rather consistent. He and his wife were recently on a trip to the city, and it was busier than usual which created sensory overload for Kris. He found himself in the candle section of Target taking a moment and saying the serenity prayer. It helps him shift his thinking that it's all about him and reminds him that he can exist better with others.

 

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change

The courage to change the things I can

The wisdom to know the difference

 

It doesn't fix everything right away, but it assists with pausing and choosing how to react going forward.

 

 

[10:15] Kris introduces Bethany:

 

Bethany is 34, has two kids and a fiancé. She just graduated college last year, works as an account manager for a car parts company. For fun she likes to play video games and plays often with her fiancé. She also enjoys running, camping, travelling and quality time with friends and family.

 

Bethany wasn't exposed to alcohol much growing up. She had her first drink when she was 14 and got sick so she didn't try it again for a while. Started going to high school parties but didn't drink when she was playing sports. She found herself in a toxic relationship with a boy she met in church. After a messy break up she stopped going to the church and ended up feeling the loss of community as a result. After going away to college, she started partying as a way to escape her depression.

 

By her sophomore year she stopped going to classes and for the next year, her drinking escalated a good bit more. She met her ex-husband around this time. She ended up getting pregnant and then they got married and had another child. She says they weren't compatible, and they didn't have a healthy relationship. Bethany feels she didn't have a good real-life example of strong relationships growing up because her mom died when she was four and her dad never remarried. Her husband was in the military where the drinking culture is very normalized, and they drank a lot. Towards the end of the marriage, she realized that the drinking was getting in the way of her parenting, and it was hard to take any breaks from it. Everyone she was around drank like she did, so no one ever said anything to her about it. For a while she stayed stuck in the cycle of drinking too much, taking a few days off and then starting back again.

 

She met her fiancé at a friend's party. He is a normal drinker and would sometimes call her out for her drinking. Bethany says her behavior towards him and others could be abusive, so she started trying to set rules around her drinking. It wasn't until an incident that had her feeling bad about not being present for her kids prompted her to think about trying to quit drinking.

 

A Google search led her to finding RE and she discovered a few episodes that really resonated with her. For the first time she realized she wasn't alone and felt hope for the future. She joined Café RE for support and accountability and started reading a lot of Quit Lit. Soon into recovery she found herself enjoying life without alcohol and enjoying her children playing sports. Her grades improved and she graduated with honors. She has started making friends that she enjoys spending time with.

 

[52:25] Kris' Summary

 

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