RE 132: Don't Beat Yourself Up - Alcohol Already Does That
Recovery Elevator
Paul
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🗓️ 28 August 2017
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
Self-Loathing is rampant in addiction, and it needs to be addressed and curtailed if we want to find long-term recovery. Self-trash talk is a double whammy when we judge ourselves harshly. We are both the attacker, and the attacked. Dr. Kristin Neff's book "Self Compassion" is summarized.
Tori with 16 days since her last drink, shares her story.
SHOW NOTES
[9:25] Paul Introduces Tori. I am from Gainesville Florida; I have lived here since I was 10. I am 24 years old. I am a proud mom to a Chi Wawa named Tucker. I like to craft, and go to the springs.
[14:39] Paul- What was the deciding factor to listen to the RE podcast, and contact the host?
Tori- My DUI was my bottom, the way I portrayed myself to the officer in December of 2015.
[18:35] Paul- I'm going to read one sentence from the email you sent to me. "I don't drink everyday, I don't have withdrawals, what I do have is the inability to control myself once I start drinking". Talk to me more about that.
Tori- During the workweek I like to keep my head on straight. The culture in town is to drink, and to binge drink. I have been doing these bar tours since I was 17.
[24:34] Paul- What has it been like these past 16 days?
Tori- I have been preoccupied with work. I was moving for one of the weekends. The hardest day was when two of my best friends came over and brought wine. I didn't drink, and they didn't care. I haven't had that breakthrough of clarity yet. I kind of feel that I am in limbo.
[32:58] Paul- To this point, what have you lost to alcohol?
Tori- A lot of my dignity, you gain more dignity in sobriety. Other things I have lost are trust with my parents. I have lost my sense of safety. I was taken to the back seat of a car and taken advantage of. I was beaten up, and had a concussion; I lost a ton of money.
[37:01] Rapid Fire Round
- What was your worst memory from drinking? The DUI, it affected many more people than myself. The sexual assault was the worst, but I try not to associate drinking with that.
- Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? Every single time I do something dumb. Every time I lose a notch of my dignity.
- What's your plan moving forward? What I have been doing has been working. I like listening to the podcasts. Most of my friends probably all have a drinking problem.
- What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? Take it one day at a time; realize that you are better than your addiction.
- You might be an alcoholic if spend the night on a chair that is not yours in front of a house that you do not own or rent. Or if you choose to not take the advice of the people that care about you the most, and continue with your bad habits.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Self-Compassion Dr. Kristin Neff
Dr. Kristin Neff- CMSC website
Connect with Cafe RE- Use the promo code Elevator for your first month free
Sober Selfies! - Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to info@recoveryelevator.com
"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"
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| 0:00.0 | Recovery elevator, episode 132. |
| 0:03.4 | You know, got me a little more motivated to be like, no, like, I don't like the person I am when I'm |
| 0:07.8 | super drunk. |
| 0:08.8 | And if I can't go out to dinner and have one glass of wine, |
| 0:11.4 | then I'm not gonna, I can't do it. |
| 0:13.0 | Welcome to the Recovery elevator podcast. My name is Paul. Thank you so much for |
| 0:21.4 | joining us. |
| 0:22.4 | According to the Recovery elevator is a a variety tracker on my phone, I have been sober for 35 months and three weeks. |
| 0:28.7 | On today's podcast, we've got Tori. She's 24 years old from the Florida Gainesville area and she's been sober for |
| 0:34.9 | 16 days. Tori she's still on the fence whether she's an alcoholic or not. She |
| 0:40.5 | emailed me and that was how she led off in her email and I had to reach out to her and get her on the podcast. |
| 0:46.0 | Okay, before we get any further, let's hear from CAFE RE. |
| 0:50.0 | Before I got sober, I felt alone. It felt like I was the only one in the whole world who found it extremely difficult to stop drinking once I had started. |
| 0:58.0 | With Cafe R.E. I now know I'm not alone. In fact, there are so many people all around this world just like me. |
| 1:04.0 | In Cafe R.E. for $12 a month, I get access to a private unsearchable Facebook group where I can connect with other like-minded individuals, |
| 1:12.0 | meet with them face to face-face in several weekly live |
| 1:14.5 | webinars and meetings, I can get paired with an accountability partner who has a similar |
| 1:18.5 | sobriety date as mine, I can attend in-person meetups and attend exclusive |
| 1:22.4 | sober trips to places like Costa Rica. |
| 1:25.1 | If there's one thing I've learned in sobriety, it's that I can't do this alone. |
| 1:28.6 | Go to recovery elevator.com and use the promo code elevator for your first month free. Again, use the promo code elevator for your first month free. |
| 1:33.5 | Again, use the promo code elevator when signing up for your first month free. |
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