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Recovery Elevator

RE 119: The 13th Step

Recovery Elevator

Paul

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.71.8K Ratings

🗓️ 29 May 2017

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Kari, with 4 years since her last drink, shares her story……………….

Café RE is now on a waitlist to join.  Once the list gets to approximately 30-40 people, another group will be formed.  To be placed on the waitlist, go to www.recoveryelevator.com and click on the Café RE tab at the top of the page.  Enter the promo code RE1month to join.

Paul reviews the video "The 13th Step."  The 13th step (where new comers are "preyed" upon by others in AA) is joked about in and out of the rooms.  The fact is that courts are ordering violent sexual predators to AA for a plea deal.  AA should not be a punishment but 40-60% of its attendees are court ordered.  This movie depicts AA in a negative light.  Sure, there are flaws with AA.  Every program has negative aspects and positive aspects.  I personally dislike movies that bash any recovery program.

 

SHOW NOTES

 

[ 8:39 ] Paul Introduces Kari

 

Kari – I am 4 years sober and live in Montana.  I am married and enjoy skiing, hiking, biking and running.

 

[11:42] What were your drinking habits like?

 

Kari – I drank through high school but it really ramped up after college.  I was a binge and social drinker but would drink until I blacked out.  I would often try and regulate my drinking and could do this for a little while.  I would track my drinks on a calendar but was miserable when I tried to moderate.

 

[22:00] Did you have a bottom?

 

Kari – After my college boyfriend committed suicide, I just didn't care to keep my drinking in check.  Another bottom was when I locked myself out of my truck after a concert.  My husband had to come and get me.  He was very angry and I came to the realization that my life and marriage would not continue if I was still drinking.

 

[29:17] How did you get sober?

 

Kari – I reached out to some friends who were in AA and attended my first meeting.  I immediately knew that I belonged.  I saw hope in these meetings and a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[36:00] Describe what your day is like.

 

Kari – Every morning I do some type of reading about recovery (Today's a Gift, Each Day a New Beginning).  I enjoy the beauty around me and it helps keep me grounded.  I say thank you every night.

 

[39:30] Paul and Kari discuss her recent sailing trip

 

Kari – Both my husband and I were nervous that we wouldn't have fun.  We still enjoyed our fruit drinks without alcohol and kept up our tradition of drinking during the sunsets.  I was able to remember the entire sailing trip.

 

[42:40] Rapid Fire Round

  1. What was your worst memory from drinking? when I was in college and went up to the rooftop thinking it would be a good idea to jump
  2. Did you ever have an "oh-shit" moment? when I realized I couldn't control my drinking
  3. What's your plan moving forward? sharing my story as often as possible
  4. What's your favorite resource in recovery? AA
  5. What's the best advice you've ever received (on sobriety)? there is nothing that says that you have to figure this all out on your own
  6. What parting piece of guidance can you give listeners who are in recovery or thinking about quitting drinking? no matter how bad you feel, you can turn your life around
  7. You might be an alcoholic if….you order 2 drinks and slide the first one to the side because it's the first one that gets you

 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Recovery Elevator Retreat

Connect with Cafe RE- Use the promo code Elevator for your first month free

Sobriety Tracker iTunes

Sobriety Tracker Android

Sober Selfies! - Send your Sober Selfie and your Success Story to info@recoveryelevator.com

 

 

"We took the elevator down, we gotta take the stairs back up, we can do this!"

 

Transcript

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0:00.0

Recovery Elevator, episode 119.

0:03.0

I had the gift of desperation.

0:06.0

I had a couple of my friends say that to me,

0:10.0

and I truly believe that I was given that gift.

0:15.0

I had reached the lowest point where I knew I was ready.

0:20.0

I knew that I had to change, I knew I was an alcoholic, although it took me quite some time to actually stay it in the meeting,

0:28.9

I knew I belonged. Welcome to the Recovery Elevator Podcast. My name is Paul. Thank you so much for joining us.

0:40.0

According to the Recovery Elevator's sobriety tracker tracker on my phone, it's been 32.66 months since my last drink.

0:47.0

On today's podcast, we've got Carrie.

0:49.0

She's 43 years old. She's been sober for over four years and she realized that sailing sober wasn't as hard as she thought it was going to be.

0:57.0

As I mentioned in the previous episode 118, that Cafe Ari, the private membership community is now capped at 250 members.

1:05.0

We've got about 15 people on a waiting list and wait until we get to about 30 or 40 before

1:09.8

we launch the new group. So if you'd like to join the new Cafe R.E. The second group

1:14.4

we're going to launch and this one is only going to contain 200 members to

1:17.8

ensure intimacy. Be sure to join. Your card won't be charged until we launched the new group.

1:24.0

Okay, let's get started.

1:26.0

A friend of mine has sent me a link to the video, The 13th Step, which is a video on Amazon Prime.

1:32.0

He asked me, what's my take on this? So I watched it, wrote some

1:36.1

notes, and, well, here it is. Right from the start, it exposes a negative light on

1:41.5

AA, when a woman who works at the World AA headquarters in New York City

1:45.3

says she receives a ton of emails from people who have been sexually assaulted from AA members.

1:50.1

This is like minute too in the documentary and I'm'm like hey, how do you really feel about AA? What is this movie going to really be about? Now what is the 13th step? Well in the film they say the 13th step is a euphemism saying that someone can sexually

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