Hey, you guys, welcome back to Heal Survive and Thrive. I am excited you're here. We're going to talk about

standards today and having really high standards. What does it mean? What does it look like?

Because when we come out of these relationships, I think one of the first things that we start to

unwrap, oh, look at that. The sun just completely went away. We're in the thick of winter right now, okay? I know it's February

and we're out of like dry January here where that month just lasts forever. It's the longest month

in the world. But I'm sorry, here in New England, February is just basically another January.

It's not until we really get to March that we start to see a little difference here. So I apologize

if the lighting starts to go a little in and out if you're watching me on YouTube. But anyways, to me,

standards are the first thing that we start to dissect when we come out of these relationships

because you kind of stop and ask yourself, like, was the bar really even high in that relationship?

Was I really even

expecting anything from this person? Was the bar crazy low? Why was the bar crazy low? Did it have

anything to do with my self-respect, self-worth, healing, wounds, all of that stuff, all that

trauma that maybe I've been through. And I kind of carried it into my dating world, into my dating life.

And then here we go.

I invite this person into my life.

And I allow this person to stay in my life, which that's right there is boundaries.

So but if you don't know your standards or you feel like I just don't really have high ones,

I don't really expect a lot from people. I've kind of always just been

going with the flow and I take whatever life kind of gives me and then I conform to that person

rather than me going into life and saying, this is who I am, this is what I want. And if you can't

provide that, that's totally fine.

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