Thank you If you're new to parenting you might have a hard time doing this but just daydream a bit and kind of picture your little tyke as a 25 year old.

That's a little harder for some of us to do than others. You really can't go down that

road too far and it's going to happen all too quickly. Your son is going to be independent,

he's maybe going to have his own family, possibly a great career.

How do you get in there though?

Those steps are so difficult to discern.

I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta and Dr. Meg Meeker has some great advice,

especially if you're one of those moms who feels like you've got to do everything for your son.

It's a love language. You serve your son, but but he's 15 so what does that look like well

she's gonna get into that in a conversation she had with focus president Jim

daily and me one of the best things a mom has to learn and you've really accented this but it's how to let go.

You use the metaphor of the axe. Let them say don't try to fix me.

You know, realize your role and I think for the mom who's in

the throes of it right now maybe with that 13-14 16-year-old a why is the process so difficult?

And then B, how can she rationally understand

it's really important that she do this

and begin to actually do it. I can hear a mom in my head saying,

I know that I need to do this, but I just struggle doing it. And then stop there.

She'll live in that kind of circular reasoning and not take the very healthy next step to say okay I got to behave differently in order to allow my son to get there.

So as we wrap up we've got to give that kind of practical

advice. Stop thinking what to do and actually do it. And actually do it.

We get in that situation because we are lovers and nurturers and now so we start

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