Am I the jerk for leaving when my brother-in-law wouldn't let me in the hot tub?

My brother-in-law just bought a new house. He lives about four hours from us. Last weekend, my husband and I went to visit him for a few days and see the house for the first time. Long story short, I got my period while I was sleeping, and the guestroom sheets had a small blood stain, about the size of a quarter.

My husband helped me to strip the bed,

and I went down to the laundry room to pre-tree and then wash the sheets. When they were done,

the bloodstain was 100% gone. But when we told my brother-in-law, he looked completely disgusted.

He inspected the sheets super closely for a very long time. And finally, I was like, Jesus, if you're looking that closely and can't find a stain,

can't you trust me that I got it out?

He seemed really put out by the whole thing.

That night, we had plans to hang out in my brother-in-law's hot tub in the backyard.

But after dinner, he told me that I wasn't allowed in the hot tub because of my period.

I was shocked and I explained that the nighttime leak was because I hadn't been expecting my period

and I'd been fast asleep all night, but that it was perfectly safe and sanitary for me to put in a tampon and sit in the hot tub for an hour.

But he wouldn't budge.

My husband had my back and told him that he was being ridiculous,

and it ended up turning into a big argument. Eventually, my husband and I decided to pack our stuff

and stay at a nearby hotel, and then we drove home the next morning. Now my brother-in-law is

fuming at us for leaving and for not respecting his home. He also Venma requested my husband $100 for new sheets, which he's refusing to pay.

But trust that if the stain hadn't come out, we would have been happy to replace them.

He told his whole side of the family who have decided to fully stay out of it.

Now, I wish they had our backs, but at least they're not piling onto us.

So, are my husband and I jerks for leaving and not paying for the sheets? I mean, obviously not. What a way to end the episode with someone that is so dumb that I want to use stronger words to describe him. How thick can you possibly be? Right, how about this, right? Think about this. The Olympics, an amazing

sporting event, an event that personally absolutely love. Now, go with me on this analogy. Trust me,

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