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Welcome to R slash am I the butthole where O.P's brother-in-law expects to receive

O.P.'s paycheck. Am I the butthole for not giving my bonus to my brother-in-law?

I'm a 28-year-old woman, and I have a brother-in-law, who's 30, who feels as though I'm being

extremely unfair to him by not giving him my referral bonus. For context, him, my husband,

and myself are all registered nurses. We live on the West Coast and him on the East Coast.

We've all done travel nursing contracts on and off over the last six years. My last recruiter was awesome,

so I referred my brother-in-law to the agency that she works for. When I started with this company,

my husband referred me. The company pays you $750 after the nurse you referred

has worked for eight weeks. The person working also receives a smaller bonus of $250.

Many companies have incentives like this. Over the last few weeks, my brother-in-law has been

making comments over text and over the phone to my husband, saying things like,

send me the money when you get it. Or let's split the bonus money. He thinks it's my husband

who's getting the bonus, but really it's me. I let my husband shut him down and deal with it,

trying not to get involved. Things took a turn last Friday. Last Friday marked eight weeks that he's

been working on contract for the company. He got his 250 bucks, so he knows the payment was made to my

husband, or actually me. He started harassing my husband over text saying he deserves the money

because he's the one working. My husband told him to knock it off and that

I'm the one who got the bonus anyways. He starts texting me saying he's owed this money,

again saying he's the one that's working the contract, not me. I told him no, and if I didn't

refer him, he would have gotten no bonus, even if it is smaller.

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