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Welcome to R slash Am I the Butthole where O.P.'s girlfriend gets a tattoo of his dead brother.

Not her dead brother, O.P.'s dead brother.

Am I the butthole for telling my fiance that her tattoo of my dead brother makes me uncomfortable?

Wait, my dead brother. Does O.P. mean his dead brother? Or does he mean her dead brother?

My older brother was 30 and I'm 29. My older brother passed away three years ago

in a motorcycle accident. This messed me up severely. Still does. He was my best friend and we'd been

inseparable since we knew each other. Even if he was older, he was never the stereotypical

older brother bully sort and I loved him for that.

Anyways, my fiance, Bella, who's 28, met my older brother only a few times, but always

said that she admired our bond as she has no real siblings of her own.

A few weeks ago, Bella surprised me with an effing tattoo that she got in memory of my brother. It's this pretty effing big,

realistic gray scale tattoo of his face with a little Snoopy icon beside it on her upper arm,

with his nickname that we use, and his birth and death dates underneath. When I saw this,

I was effing stunned. She said she did it as a

tribute to him and to support me because she knows how much I still struggle with grief. I honestly

didn't know what to say at first, but the more I sat with it, the more it bothered me.

I told her gently, as much as I could, to be honest, that I appreciated

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