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Welcome to R slash am I the butthole where O.P.'s mom tries to steal half of her money.

Am I the butthole for refusing to give my mom my savings after she found out how much money I have? I'm a 19 year old woman currently in college and still living at home. I've been working

part-time since I was 16 and I'm really strict about saving. I don't go out much, don't buy expensive

stuff, and I've managed to save a decent amount, around $4,000.

Last week, my mom asked me to log into my banking app to transfer money for groceries

because her card wasn't working. While I was doing that, she saw my total savings.

She went quiet, and later that night told me that since I'm living under her roof, I should contribute more,

and that it's selfish of me to hoard money while she's struggling. She asked me to give her $2,000

to help the family and said that I could always earn it back. The thing is, she's not unemployed

or anything. She works full time. We're not rich, but we're not in crisis either.

I already pay for my own school stuff, my phone bill, and sometimes groceries. I was saving

that money in case I move out for emergencies. When I said I wasn't comfortable giving that much,

she called me ungrateful and said that I'm acting like a tenant instead of a

daughter. Now my relatives are saying I should help because family helps family. But I feel like she only

wants it because she saw how much I had. Am I the butthole for refusing to give her half my savings?

O.P., you definitely shouldn't give money arbitrarily. However, if your mom decides to start

charging you rent, she'd be 100% justified in doing so. So be prepared for that. I think you're in a

losing situation no matter what happens, O.P. Still, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes.

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