Welcome to R-slash, am I the bad guy? Where, as soon to be father, literally just vanishes on his

pregnant wife. Am I the bad guy for not trying harder to let my ex know that our son passed away?

I'm a woman, and me and my partner, a male, were 28 when I found out that I was pregnant. We'd

been together for four years. Personally, I didn't want the child. My work was offering potential

advances within my position, and I was excited for it. But after a lot of talking, we decided to go

forward with it. When I was around 20 weeks pregnant, just after finding out the baby's gender,

he disappeared. I couldn't contact him, and he wouldn't answer the phone or messages. I got

worried and messages mother, and I found out that he was back living with her and was overwhelmed

with the situation. He kept paying his part of the bills over to my bank account each month, but

I received no contact. I even tried to go over to see him in person, but nothing. By about 27 weeks,

I gave up trying, gave up crying, and just got on with what I thought was a future as a single mother.

I bought everything needed over the next couple of weeks and set everything up. At 31 weeks,

I started having pains, but I put it down to Braxton Hicks. Just before 32 weeks, my water broke,

I went into labor, and the baby started coming very quickly. The baby went straight into the neonatal

intensive care unit. I messaged and called my ex and his mother, but got no response. Less than a

week later, my son passed away due to complications of early birth. I again tried to contact my ex and

his mother. I left voicemails and messages, nothing. The next few weeks were a blur, but with the

help of my mother and father, I arranged for my son's funeral. They also tried to contact my ex and

his mother, but still nothing. I sent more messages, nothing. I'm assuming that we were all

probably blocked, but honestly at that point, I just didn't care. I was so broken. My son's

funeral came and went. It was beautiful and horrible. I stopped messaging my ex and told my family

not to bother after the funeral had passed. I just couldn't deal with it anymore. Five months after

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