Quiet Your Inner Critic and Practice Self-Compassion Kim Fredrickson Ep 188
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🗓️ 8 January 2018
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
If you’ve ever ended the day feeling like a failure and critiquing every misstep, then this episode on practicing self-compassion is for you.
As a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, Kim Fredrickson has counseled and taught others about self-compassion for years. When she received an unexpected terminal diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis, a rare side-effect of the treatment she had received for breast cancer, she wrote a book to leave for her children on giving that same compassion to the grandchildren she may never meet.
When people feel ashamed, they blame other people because they feel like if I really look at my shame then I’m going to collapse inside. That’s why self-compassion is desperately important because kids feel shame a lot. They fail at everything at the start.
What we chat about:- Kim’s story of receiving a devastating diagnosis after completing treatment for breast cancer
- How she’s chosen to spend the years she has left with her family
- The new book she wrote for when her children have kids called “Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children”
- How it’s a process to develop a compassionate inner voice
- Applying grace and truth to every situation in our lives
- Variety of temperaments–some that are harder on themselves than others.
- The difference between self-compassion and self-pity
- Encouraging your children to practice self-compassion and reinforcing it by showing ourselves that same
- Giving our kids the language to identify their failings and separate them from their self- worth
- Moms have a really hard job. It’s ok to acknowledge that.
- The importance of taking care of ourselves as moms
- How to talk to your kids after you’ve been hard on yourself and reframing it with self compassion
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hey all, welcome back to the God Center Mom Podcast with me Heather McFadden, we're |
| 0:15.6 | kicking off this new year with episode 188, where I'm chatting with Ken Frederiksen. |
| 0:21.4 | She's a licensed, marriage and family therapist. |
| 0:24.7 | She's been teaching people for years about self-compassion. |
| 0:29.1 | In fact, she wrote a book called Give Yourself A Break. |
| 0:32.0 | Well, unfortunately, Ken was also diagnosed with breast cancer and a rare side effect of |
| 0:37.2 | her treatment, pulmonary fibrosis. |
| 0:40.1 | With doctors giving her three to five years to live, Ken decided to spend some of the |
| 0:44.1 | time writing another book for her kids, sharing her thoughts, to help them raise the grand |
| 0:50.3 | kids she'd never meet. |
| 0:52.8 | She titled that book Give Your Kids A Break, and she self-published it so that we can |
| 0:57.3 | also benefit from her wisdom. |
| 1:00.2 | If you're a mom with a strong inner critic, a voice inside your head that tells you, |
| 1:04.5 | you did it again, you're such a failure, why can't you get anything right? |
| 1:08.6 | This episode is for you. |
| 1:11.5 | We will breathe a collective sigh of relief as Ken reminds us that we're still in training |
| 1:16.5 | that this job, this motherhood journey, is a process we're not going to get it all right |
| 1:21.6 | right away and we won't even have a day where we won't make a mistake. |
| 1:25.9 | We need to speak kindly to ourselves. |
| 1:30.1 | My prayer is that this gives you some peace as you enter in the new year and gives you |
| 1:34.5 | a little bit of a break. |
| 1:36.5 | All right, let's get right to it. |
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