It's easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry and connection with someone without actually being objective if they have the capacity of a relationship (or the type of relationship you want!) right now. As someone who learned the hard way spending years with people who weren't ready, Julie takes you through 5 questions she'd ask today to get a better feel of where someone was at (many of which she had discussed with her now-husband as well!). She shares why it's best to ask these types of questions early, how to ask them without it feeling like a daterview, and ways to really listen to the way they respond. Enjoy! 🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ 📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ 🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy