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Calm Parenting Podcast

Quick Tips for Dads Ep. 4: Don't Ask Your Wife to be the Referee

Calm Parenting Podcast

Kirk Martin

Education, Society & Culture, Relationships, Social Sciences, Science, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.81.1K Ratings

🗓️ 17 October 2025

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

Because I couldn't control my own emotions, my wife had to walk on eggshells and manage my emotions for me. I put her in the position of having to be the referee between our son and me. I will show you exactly how to change this dynamic before it ruins your relationships. Take advantage of our big Fall Sale at https://celebratecalm.com/products/ and get dozens of scripts to help in every situation. Email [email protected] with any questions and to get a personalized plan on how to implement the programs.


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Calm for 20% off. So I'm just going to be blunt with this one. I think the worst thing that I

1:07.5

ever did to my wife was put her in the position of having to manage my emotions

1:13.5

for me because I couldn't control my own emotions. So we have a very strong well child and say we were

1:20.9

sitting at the dinner table. Well, obviously he's a strong will kid like many of our kids. He's not

1:26.0

sitting correctly, eating correctly.

1:28.5

And so I would begin to get a little bit visibly upset.

1:31.9

Now I wasn't just like screaming and yelling and throwing things, but I was starting to

1:36.6

get upset because you know how it is.

1:38.8

Your voice gets a little bit clipped and short with your child.

1:43.1

And when that started happening, well, now my wife is

1:45.9

starting to feel that inside of her body. And she's starting to anticipate, uh-oh, is this going to

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