mom or dad if you're a single parent you deal with so very much and we want to talk a little bit about

some of that load and ways to grow on today's episode i'm john fuller along with our vice president

of parenting dr danny werta and let's listen to a conversation part of a conversation conversation, from Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

Jim spoke with Pam Farrell and Peggy Sue Wells.

And last time Peggy Sue shared about the five R's, rejection, resentment, resistance, revenge, and repeat.

And she shared about how to avoid those five hours.

Let's listen in for more.

Boy, in breaking that cycle, that's where you need help.

You need a way to step out of that cycle so you can remedy the situation.

Another R word.

There are, yeah.

Oh, that's good.

Yeah, there's a good one.

I'm going to have to add that.

So there's the green lights.

We go from the red light to the green light. So the green lights are, instead of being in those five hours, I need to instead be practicing gratitude and generosity and grace and engagement. And so when I move into those green lights, those are the things that build the relationship. But just realize we are in one of those feelings,

one of those ours, pretty much with every relationship that we're engaged with, whether it's

our neighbor or people that we work with, what have you. So it's coming to recognize it. And then

in the book we talk about, if you're here, then do this instead. If you're here, do this instead,

and then we're going to get you out of that. But the first thing that you can do to not even start into that five-hour parade is stick to the

facts. Because if I would have stuck to the facts that said, you know what, this morning, my teenager

is grousing around the house. It would have been fine. Yeah, it's not you, it's them. Not me. It's not me. It's just that's the fact. I don't need to read anything into it. So recently we had a wedding. So if you want drama, have a wedding.

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