Hi everyone, welcome back to doing it, the Sex and Relationships podcast where sex has never been so nerdy with me, your host, Hannah Witten.

Recently, I caught up with Quinn Rhodes, a queer, disabled, trans sex writer who writes for Refinery 29,

Huffington Post and his own blog on Queer Street.

Quinn is known for his personal and kinky musings on queering sex, vaginismus, mental health, shame,

strap-ons and just all things, filth.

I got to know Quinn from within the sex positive world and from my own Patreon community.

I have had so many interesting conversations with Quinn about sex and gender,

and he has also been working with me on some of my recent YouTube videos,

and so I wanted to have the chance

to dive a little deeper with Quinn on the podcast. Our chat did not disappoint. We talked about

why Quinn is reclaiming the words transsexual and faggot, why he feels the term pegging has homophobic undertones, and how

companies need to stop making masturbation all about capitalism. Quinn shared how to queer up your

sex life, what gender affirming sex truly looks like, and shared a lot of personal insights

into what it's like being a sex writer with

mental health illness. Quinn shares advice on how to throw the cis heteronormative sexual

script out of the window and figure out what really works for you and why more of us should

bring the yes-no maybe list into our sex lives.

I absolutely loved my chat with Quinn.

We covered so many important topics from the most vulnerable to the most slutty.

And brownie points for anyone who can count the amount of times we say the phrase fucked up the ass in this episode.

Please know also that we do discuss mental illness,

depression and suicidal thoughts. So please do take care of yourselves if you need to when

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