Welcome to The Man Talk Show. I'm Connor Beaten. And on this midweek mini episode, I'm just going to dive into a few questions that I have been getting through Instagram. So the other day I put out just an invitation for people to ask me their questions.

Dive into a few of them here.

Some of them are relationship related.

Some of them are shadow work related.

So here we go.

Ed asked,

what's your thoughts on the culture of pickup artists?

I'm going to keep this one brief.

I have worked with many men who have been up in the pickup industry space,

men that have been trained, men that have been teachers in the pickup space,

and a lot of them have come to work with me after.

Look, I think the pickup space creates pretend confidence. And I think that's part of the issue.

It gives you tactics and tools to sort of put a veneer over your insecurities. It allows you to pretend for a little while that there aren't aspects of yourself that

you feel are unworthy.

And it creates a pretend version of masculine strength and masculine confidence, which a lot

of guys want, but a lot of men aren't willing to do the real

hard work to cultivate that deeper sense of confidence. They want the quick fix. That's the culture

that we live in. And listen, dudes, like, guys, there's no shame. There is no shame in that. I'm not saying

that to create any shame. The reality is, is that at some some point it's going to break down. So for most

men that go through pickup and they learn these sayings and they learn how to neg and they learn

how to engage with the woman in a way where it's going to, whatever, it's going to get her to engage with him.

Eventually, what's going to happen is once you start dating one of those women, and if it's not

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