My entitled father forces me to change the locks on my room after he constantly barges in without asking and without knocking first, as he has literally walked in on me changing and even taking a shower, claiming that because my room is messy, he has every right to barge in there and do whatever he wants. And now I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, because at this point, I don't know what to do.

Here's what happened. Okay, I'm a 22-year-old female and when I was 14 years old, my dad took my room key and lost it. He never apologized and thought it was fine because I never keep my room clean and people should see it. This was the condition I was living with until I moved in with my boyfriend when I was about 20 years old.

Sad boyfriend and I broke up around January

and I had to move back home.

I still am quite messy and I'm trying to be better. And since I still have a ton of stuff and I just don't know where to put it, I keep them in bags in my room. It's loaded right now and I've been sleeping in another room on the couch until my new bed arrives. So here's where all the issues really started.

My dad, even after numerous attempts of asking him not to, never knocks. He just bursts open the

door whenever. He once even did it while I was changing and I was still in my underwear. I told my

mom about it and asked her to talk to him since he won't stop. And now he knocks once and just

opens the door, even if I say no or

ask him to wait. Last week, he started going into my room while I was away or taking a shower

and letting up the electrical blinds. My room faces the terrace and pretty much everybody can see

through the windows and the doors. During spring and summer, a lot of my parents' friends come over

all the time. So I chose to keep them down so nobody can see me change or into my room in general. This is nothing new. I've been doing this since I got that room. And my sister did it before me. So now I've been in a week-long battle of telling him to stop with him saying that as long as my room is messy, the blind stay up. And me explaining my problem and him just ignoring me. I've told him repeatedly that if he could make some space in the attic, I would be more than happy to get rid of all of the bags. But it's full of his stuff. I am just as annoyed by the messiness as the next guy, and there's no place to put anything. This weekend, my dad went on some vacation with his friends, and I decided to change the locks

and lock the door. When he came home today, the first thing he did was going to the back to my room, but it was locked. When he saw me, he immediately screamed at me and had a huge meltdown. He said that I had no right to do that, and that I had to change the lock this instant. I calmly told him that since he can't respect my privacy, I just won't be doing that.

I also said that if he can't respect my privacy,

I just won't be doing that. I also said that if he was willing to leave my room alone and start

knocking, I just wouldn't mind changing them back. Right now, I can't afford to move out because of the

high rent prices in my town. And all my savings got blown by my ex. If I could, I would be out in a

second at this point. But now, he went to a voluntary social group that were both a part of and told them all about it. I'm super mad because it's literally nobody's business. And these are my friends, not his. Which just makes this worse, in my opinion. And while some of them sided with me, others think that I had no right to change the locks.

But they get why I did. He makes me feel like a jerk and honestly, he called me one more than once. So truly, am I at fault here? Am I the jerk for locking my door? Because right now I don't know what to do. Okay, seriously, the way your dad's acting is super intrusive. Like, this is so inappropriate, it's not even funny. The original poster is 22 years old.

Their dad has no business barging into your room, especially when you're changing. And what's the deal with him pulling up the blinds when you're literally like coming out of the shower or changing or doing anything else private? Like, that is really inappropriate and you have every right to privacy. And honestly, I think the fact that

you did change your locks and make a statement that way, in my opinion, shows that no, you're not okay with this and you're not going to put up with this for another second. Because guess what? You shouldn't have to. You should not have to walk on eggshells and be like, okay, is he going to barge in my room today or not? So in my opinion, if you're paying rent and you're doing everything you need to do to, like, be a member of the household,

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