My entitled on is demanding that I move back home and take care of my grandmother full-time as her caregiver, stating that because I'm not working, this would be the perfect opportunity to prove that I care. But despite the fact that my grandmother was a monster growing up, I truly don't want to uproot my entire life just to take care of someone who has treated me so poorly. And at this point, I'm honestly so frustrated and I don't know

what to do. Here's what happened. So my grandparents played a huge role in raising my brother and myself,

as well as my aunt's two kids. Between her kids, me and my brother, my grandparents' house was a

revolving door of children being dropped off while our parents work full time. As the oldest, I was

expected to take on the most responsibility and became my grandmother's

helper. My grandparents were awful verbally and emotionally, and they literally had no boundaries.

I spent significant time in their home, constantly being ordered around and reminded how much

I owed them. They lived in the house directly behind my dad's, so there was no escaping it.

If they needed something, they called. If they wanted something done, I was expected to do it. At the age of 22, I was exhausted and I moved away. I've lived away from home for eight years now. And recently, I've been hearing about my grandparents' declining health. I was told my grandmother has dementia and my grandfather has limited time. But when I speak with them, they seem completely lucid.

I've attempted to clarify their condition with my dad and my brother, but I've been met with vague, passive-aggressive answers. Anyways, I was recently laid off and called my aunt, as she has a strong professional network, and I was seeing if there's any other job openings that she might know about. Well, her reply was really harsh. She said to me, I've got too much crap going on here to worry about you, but I didn't ask her to worry about me. I asked if she knew anyone was hiring. She then revealed the likely true reason she answered my call. My grandfather is an assisted living, and she, my brother and my cousins are all juggling work and caregiving shifts for my grandmother, who apparently can't be

left alone in the home anymore. And this was all news to me. She praised my brother and her daughter,

comparing me negatively to them as always, then demanded I move home and become my grandmother's

full-time caregiver because I'm currently unemployed. She then said that I had to give some to get some.

When I politely declined, she blamed my refusal on my mother not raising me right, despite my grandparents essentially raising all of us. For reference, my mother left when I was six years old, and my grandparents undermined both she and my dad completely. They controlled everything about my upbringing. So I was essentially raised by the same people who raised my aunt. And now I feel like

my aunt is trying the same manipulation with me. When I pointed out that I have no medical training

and suggested they hire a nurse, she just dismissed it, claiming that due to short staffing,

hiring a nurse wasn't an option. But I know exactly what will happen if I agree. I'll be trapped

there indefinitely, sacrificing my life while

everyone else continues normally. And this is just a black hole that I refuse to enter. So seriously,

am I the jerk for refusing to drop everything in my life? Move back home and become my grandmother's

unpaid caregiver, all because my aunt's demanding it out of me? Because right now, I'm honestly

so upset and I seriously don't know what to do. Okay, first of all, I think you would be a fool to go back there and be a full-time caregiver because for starters, that's not your full-time employment. So how would you even begin to know how to take care of someone like that? Not to mention the fact that you wouldn't be paid, but in reality, they're only trying to get you to do it because they don't want to. And they're too cheap to be like, okay, you need assisted living, or something like that. Like your aunt even said it,

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