Psalm 13, Erin Brockovich, and the Debris of Sexual Abuse
The Allender Center Podcast
The Allender Center
4.7 • 648 Ratings
🗓️ 31 October 2025
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
If you've ever wrestled with the long, uneven work of healing, we hope today's conversation offers courage for the journey.
Dan shares his recent reflections on the lament of waiting found in Psalm 13 and the persistent pursuit of justice embodied by Erin Brockovich as he rewatched the 2000 film. He and Rachael explore the tension between justice today and the full restoration that is "not yet," bringing these insights into the lingering impact of past sexual abuse.
Healing after sexual abuse shapes not just your body but your whole affective and relational world. When harm happens in relationships, it distorts your sense of safety, trust, and even goodness. You may notice contempt toward your own body, frustration at emotional reactions, or fear around your own desires. Hypervigilance, self-protection, or numbing can become familiar companions, and trusting others—or even yourself—can feel risky. The work of healing in adult life is laborious, requiring vulnerability, patience, and courage to reclaim desire, goodness, and the capacity to be seen.
They consider Psalm 13 as both a cry of lament and a thread of hope. It doesn't promise immediate relief. It simply says, "I trust in your unfailing love," leaving open the possibility that this is not the end of the story.
Healing is not a linear path or a once-and-done process. It's a lifelong journey of tending to what remains—the physiological, emotional, relational, and spiritual aftermath of trauma. And yet, even in the hard work, there is invitation: keep choosing life, goodness, and the beauty of your own desire.
Every small act of caring for your body, each moment of speaking truth, each return to beauty becomes a protest against despair—a glimpse of the wholeness that is coming. Healing itself is a form of justice.
* This episode engages the topic of abuse, particularly sexual abuse and child abuse. Listener discretion is advised.
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| 0:00.0 | The pain of abuse doesn't simply go away over time. |
| 0:06.4 | It lingers. It shapes how we live, how we relate, and even how we care for ourselves and others. |
| 0:13.2 | And in the busyness of everyday life, it can be really hard to face that pain. |
| 0:18.3 | Maybe you've talked with a trusted friend or have done some personal work. |
| 0:21.6 | But still, it can feel like you're not going deep enough to really address the weight of your story. |
| 0:27.6 | That's where Recovery Week comes in. For over 30 years, Dr. Dan Allender and the Allender Center have hosted these immersive workshops for men, for women, and now for women with |
| 0:39.0 | the focus on racial trauma and healing. Recovery Weeks gives you the time to step away from your |
| 0:44.0 | daily life and into a space with small groups, one-on-one sessions, and guided teaching. This is a |
| 0:50.3 | space where you can truly name the harm of your past, receive good care, and learn |
| 0:55.4 | to love your own story. |
| 0:57.6 | And as you engage your past with more honesty and compassion, you'll begin to see the |
| 1:02.3 | possibility of hope, restoration, and a future, shaped not by the abuse you suffered, but |
| 1:09.1 | by the healing, goodness, and life you are moving toward. |
| 1:12.4 | You can learn more about upcoming dates and the application process for recovery weeks |
| 1:16.9 | at the Allender Center.org slash workshops. |
| 1:33.2 | Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast. |
| 1:35.0 | I'm Dr. Dan Allender. |
| 1:36.6 | And I'm Rachel Clinton-Cenn. |
| 1:40.9 | We're fiercely committed to providing hope and healing to a fragmented world. |
| 1:43.2 | And restoration for the heart. |
| 1:46.1 | Thank you for joining us. Let's get this conversation started. You know, sometimes, Rachel, you ask me, what's our focus or title? I think it's more title because we |
| 2:02.3 | usually know the focus. So let me give you a title for our time. Psalm 13, Aaron Brockovich, |
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