Hey friends, what's going on? Welcome to the Astrosol. I'm Kory Allen. It's good to be here with you today. I hope that you're doing good, that you're feeling good.

On this episode, I want to talk about protecting your energy. We want to be useful to other people. We want to make ourselves available.

But that's really one of the main things, if not managed well, that can just grind you into the dirt.

And there's a lot wrapped up in it because, you know, for example, a friend, a partner, a parent, something like that are going to command a certain amount of our energy that we have.

And that's okay. You know, it's good to put some of your effort into your energy into those things, of course.

But being aware of what that relationship is like and how it's shaping your life and what your goals are and what you want to focus on is a really important thing to examine.

Because people will inadvertently just zap as much energy and attention from you as they possibly can.

And as I said, some people do it on purpose. Some people don't know that they're doing it, but they do it anyway.

You know, some people can be very intellectually draining. Some people can be draining of your time. Some people can be very emotionally draining.

And it's great, of course, to be there for those people, but understanding that you need to set boundaries and to be able to exit those moments and like set clear timelines or how much you're going to put into these things so that you can have enough leftover to do what you want to do.

And that's an important thing because you know, it's easy to have aspirations or focus in your life.

And let's use just the example of like, alright, you want to get your meditation in every day so that you will feel better, so that you will feel more clear minded and have a better ability to navigate the terrain of your own mind.

But instead of putting energy into that, you have a parent that's texting you all the time and is bored and wants you to come over constantly and deal with things that they could do with themselves.

You've got a partner who is complaining about their job 24 seven and who is zapping a lot of your emotional energy out, you know, you've got a couple of friends that are working on things and are asking for favors for you to help them.

You have some professional situations where people are asking you to help them out and overextend yourself and you end up giving more and more and more in all these directions and eventually you just have no time and no energy to treat yourself the way that you would treat these other people.

And again, each of those scenarios I described, I just randomly made them up, but I know that there are things that people deal with and there are things that everyone deals with and some degree at some point or another.

And so especially whenever you have a lot of that in your life at once, you can really get tap drive.

Now, it is important to understand the communication around those things. So sometimes, you know, for example, it took me forever as a public figure to learn how to say no.

Because in the early days, people would contact me either just reaching out because they enjoy the podcast or it's whenever publicists started really pitching me hard to get guests on the show.

I would always respond with like an equal amount of text that someone sent me because I felt bad. I thought, well, if this person has spent the time to email me or to send me a message, the least I can do is respond and kind.

And eventually, you know, that got to a level where I just wasn't sustainable. And I was just exhausted at trying to just deal with conversations, deal with emails and messages.

And I realized that it actually the thing that people were emailing me for the reason they were doing it in the first place was suffering because I was spending so much time trying to navigate this, you know, communication terrain.

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