Projective Identification in Abusive Relationships [280]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5.0 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 18 June 2024
⏱️ 20 minutes
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Summary
Abusers will project their own inner identity and issues onto their victims. Let’s talk about what that means, how it impacts a survivor, and what you can do about it.
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Related Resources:
- The YouTube video that inspired this episode, “Projective Identification Explained.”
- The book by Tina Swithin I mentioned, Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle.
- My newest book, All the Scary Little Gods, is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming.
- Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote another book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse.
- Flying Free is my online membership program designed for Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages. Whether you want to stay in your marriage or leave, we want to equip and support you through this program.
- Flying Higher is my online membership program for divorced Christian women. Come rebuild your life after divorce with women just like you.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now.com and you're listening to the |
| 0:09.3 | Flying Free Podcast, a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:16.4 | emotional and spiritual abuse. |
| 0:18.9 | Welcome to episode 280 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today I want to talk about a new term I learned recently that is used to describe a dynamic I experienced in every abusive relationship I have been in. |
| 0:38.0 | I've talked about this dynamic in general, but I had no idea that it actually has a name and has been studied and talked about in the social sciences. |
| 0:47.0 | And I have not directly focused on this dynamic in any podcast episode prior to this. |
| 0:53.0 | So let's go. |
| 0:55.0 | I heard about this term when one of the members of my Flying Free Sisterhood Group |
| 1:00.0 | posted a YouTube video in our recommended resources section on our private forum. |
| 1:06.4 | And I'm going to post a link to this YouTube video in the show notes. |
| 1:10.6 | But I want to point out that this is the kind of synergy and help that we experience every week in our forum. |
| 1:17.0 | There are hundreds of members, all of whom have their own journey, but collectively they bring so much wisdom and insight and help to the |
| 1:26.0 | table. |
| 1:27.0 | If you would like to be part of something like this, you can learn more about what the |
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| 1:34.9 | FlyingFree.com. I purposely make it very affordable for almost everyone but the |
| 1:41.4 | value you get on the back end is priceless. |
| 1:44.8 | Okay, so the term is called Projective Identification. |
| 1:50.0 | Two words that describe two things that are happening in an abusive relationship. |
| 1:56.7 | Now these things can be happening in non-abusive relationships as well on a smaller level, |
| 2:01.2 | which I'm not going to get into here but when these two things are |
| 2:05.2 | happening on a regular basis in a pattern this becomes abusive and you'll see how in a |
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