Pressure Vs. Passion: The Bedroom Mistake Killing Your Sex Life

The Curious Girl Diaries

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Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.0 • 596 Ratings

🗓️ 14 March 2026

⏱️ 59 minutes

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I’m getting real about the desire gap today with relationship coach Monica Tanner—and trust me, we go there. 🔥 We talk about why couples stop craving each other, what actually kills sexual chemistry, and how pressure can quietly sabotage your bedroom. I loved her take on “cold ovens,” responsive desire, and why some partners need a little more warm-up before the fun begins. We also dive into fantasies, porn, and how honest conversations about sex might save your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered why one partner wants it more than the other… this episode is going to hit home. Press play—you might just learn how to make sex irresistible again. 😉 THE PRIVATE PODCAST IS HERE! GO TO ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries.com/exclusive⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TO SIGN UP! To learn more about Monica, go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://monicatanner.com https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage https://youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafter Learn how to master your hard ons and satisfy your partner every time, go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.erikeverhard.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get 30% off when you use the code CURIOUSGIRL at checkout. To learn more about the ancient sex technique of Pompoir go to:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.gohddess.com/curiousgirl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get 25% off your order! Thank you for supporting my affiliates who help keep this show FREE: To master hand jobs, and rock your partner’s world, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.rockthebedroom.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use the code CURIOUSGIRL10 at checkout for a 10% discount! Honeypot CBD Lube (I HIGHLY recommend this!) Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code CURIOUS10 for 10% off your purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	What I've dedicated my life to is revenge.
0:04.7	A brand new drama based on the best-selling novel.
0:07.5	They think they're better than us.
0:08.5	Who do you think you are?
0:09.8	I'm going to prove to them that they're wrong.
0:11.5	She's punishing me.
0:13.0	You destroyed my family.
0:14.3	I will not rest until I've destroyed yours.
0:17.0	A woman of substance on Channel 4 starts tonight at 9.
0:21.9	Hey everyone. Welcome to The Curious Girl Diaries podcast.
0:25.9	I'm Leila London, aka The Curious Girl.
0:29.2	Now just to let you know, this podcast is not suitable for work.
0:33.6	It's also not suitable for anybody under 18.
0:36.8	But the rest of you consenting adults, let's get ready to talk about my sex life,
0:41.8	sex in general, and everything in between, an explicit, raunchy, fun detail.
0:48.7	All right, here we go.
0:54.0	My oldest is married, and my book, Bad Marriage Advice, was written for him and his wife.
1:00.3	What's going on out there in the desire gap?
1:02.7	So why do you think people stop wanting sex from their partner?
1:08.1	There's two types of desire.
1:10.5	One is spontaneous desire where you literally
1:13.0	can stop anything and you feel desire first and you can stop in the middle of whatever you're
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