Pressure & Expectations from Family & Culture
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 27 December 2022
⏱️ 67 minutes
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Summary
I'm joined by South Asian Therapist Fatema Jivanjee-Shakir, LMSW, to discuss the nuances of South Asian dating culture and how much emphasis our society places on marriage. We discuss the shame and secrecy around dating in South Asian culture, how individuals are expected to not date in their teenage years and get married in their early twenties, the intersection of food and body image with dating and relationships, and more. Fatema shares advice on how to become more confident in your own skin and identify your own values so you can live the life that feels most right for you.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:08.7 | Hey guys, it's Alana and welcome back for another episode of seeing other people. |
| 0:13.9 | To all those who celebrate, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas. |
| 0:18.1 | I hope you ate some great food. |
| 0:19.5 | No matter what you did, I hope you were able to |
| 0:21.5 | just take a minute and pause and enjoy and be happy that it's the holiday season. And hopefully |
| 0:27.8 | you guys are on vacation or taking a day off or the whole week off and get to, you know, |
| 0:33.6 | just sit back and have some time to yourself, have some time to binge Emily and Paris. I'm |
| 0:39.0 | recording this a few days ahead, but I really hope that by the time this episode comes out, I have |
| 0:43.6 | finished all of Emily and Paris. I have not yet started it and I feel like I am failing myself |
| 0:48.5 | for that. So I'm very excited to watch. I know it's going to be just as bad and good as I want it to be. |
| 0:55.0 | That seems to be the theme of what I'm seeing. |
| 0:57.4 | And I know it won't disappoint. |
| 0:59.0 | So I'm very excited to do that. |
| 1:01.3 | My Christmas and holiday weekend plans, I am spending the weekend at, or I did now spend |
| 1:07.5 | the weekend at Jake's parents' house in Westchester. |
| 1:27.8 | I love when we get to go there because Berkeley gets to run around and there's people and it's just nice being out of the apartment and, you know, getting to walk around the neighborhood. I definitely miss that when I'm in the city. So just really happy to be in the burbs for a bit. And every year I go to Christina's family's Christmas dinner. I've been doing that for like 10 years now. |
| 1:30.2 | And it's just such a special way to end the year. |
| 1:31.2 | And I love it. |
| 1:33.4 | And I eat so much food. |
| 1:39.3 | Their family is like, oh, just the best Italian grandmother recipes ever. |
| 1:42.0 | And it's so special to me to be a part of that. And so really excited for that. |
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