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Welcome to Mom and Dad are Fighting, Slate's Parenting Podcasts for Thursday, April 4th, the preschool nemesis edition.

I'm Gabriel Roth. I'm the editorial director of Slate Podcasts, and I'm the father of Leo, who is four years old, and Eliza, who is eight.

I'm Rebecca LaVoy. I am a journalist and podcaster in New Hampshire and I am mom to Henry who is 17,

Teddy who is 16 and my stepdaughter Lily who is 18. And I'm Carva Wallace, a writer and

podcaster in Oakland, California, but here coming to you live from Slate Studios in Brooklyn

and I'm the father to

Georgia, who is 13, and Ezra, who is 16. Today on our show, we have a question for you

about divorce. We have another about step-parenthood. We're going to have triumphs and fails. We're

going to make recommendations. I'm going to call it something else. And on Slate Plus, Alison

Benedict is going to join to share an April Fool's

Fail. Don't miss it. We're going to start with triumphs and fails. Rebecca, you want to go first?

Yeah, I'm happily go first. I want to give a big triumph to my son, Henry, for backing up his

school administration on a great decision that they made to change the traditional

graduation gown colors from green for boys and white for girls to all green for everyone.

This is something that a lot of students in his school are very unhappy about. They feel it's bucking

some sort of tradition. And he had the same sort of

knee-jerk reaction to it that a lot of his peers did. And then after thinking about it for

literally an hour, realized that it was a good decision that was meant to bring more equality

to the school. I mean, everyone gets the same diploma after all. Why separate kids by gender

graduation? And also doesn't put kids who have nonconforming gender identities in the

position of having to choose what color gown that they would wear at graduation. And he put a very

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