If you're trying to be the perfect parent, you'll eventually be disappointed.

Sooner or later, you're going to make a mistake or two if you haven't already done so.

But being a good parent isn't about whether or not you mess up,

it's about how you respond when you do have that failure. I'm John Fuller along with my friend and

focus colleague Dr. Danny Werta. Let's hear from Mylan and Kay Yurkovich.

They are so open about mistakes they've made in their parenting.

Here they are now with Jim Daly explaining

how they learn to be more vulnerable with their children.

You talk about some of the gifts you can give to your child.

Talk about a couple of those and how you gave them those gifts in your own family and what do you mean by the gift?

Well there's lots of gifts that we talk about at the end of the book, how we love our kids.

Gifts that you want to give to your child is a legacy and

one of them is what I'm going to call the gift of vulnerability as a parent.

We had our three oldest children move out of the house within a period of 18 months two got married one moved away and all of a sudden our house was real quiet and I started to feel triggered and anxious and depressed because I loved having this busy home.

And I found that all of a sudden I was being the helicopter parent to my daughter, a Kelly.

And that's because you're a pleaser parent or a recovering

career but but but what was happening I was getting triggered by the silence in

my home and the quietness it just was so relate to that.

All right. So I said to Kelly one day because I would bug my daughter to pieces and say,

well, where are you going? Who's going to be there? What's the telephone numbers? How long are's going to be there what's the telephone numbers how long

you going to be there and then I'd ask her again where are you going who's going to be

there are there any parents in supervision blah blah blah blah and I would over

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