Coming up on marriage today with Jimmy and Karen.

So if you're going to have successful communication, remember your spouse isn't like you.

They don't need what you need and they don't hear like you hear.

If you're a man speaking to a woman, talk security

and you will succeed in communicating with that sister. If you're talking to a man, speak the language of respect.

You can say anything.

You're an equal. Oh, Karen when we got married you know I didn't want to talk I mean I like to talk a little

but she just wanted to talk all the time and she wanted to talk about everything and when I came from home from work and stuff

She I thought she was nosy you know and I just thought I don't want to feed that monster and she would she where'd you go who'd you see what

they say how'd you feel about that I was like this is a boundary violation and you need general information about where I've been and what I've done but my feelings or my feelings and but she that wasn't good with her

But one of the things that healed our marriage is when I started talking to Karen and understand this is what connects her to me.

This is what connects her to my world and what she needs is patient-loving communication. So here's my little speech and you may have heard my

little speech before, here's my little speech. Okay, so women typically don't need sex as much as men. But what I say to women is be more

sexual than you feel. Your husband has the need for sex, you have the gift of sex. And God gave you

that gift so that it would draw your husband back to you constantly.

Don't despise that.

It's a precious thing that keeps your husband coming back to you and it's important

to meet that need.

Be more sexual than you feel.

That's my little speech to women.

Here's my little speech to men. Okay. I just got through saying something really wonderful to your wives

Because that was a that was a biggie. You're welcome.

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