Maybe the sex we have isn't good.

Maybe I'm going to get divorced, right?

There's all these fears and all these things that come up here.

And the idea is if I could get here, those fears would be gone.

That is really important to acknowledge if we're going to build a process that doesn't necessarily get us to having sex five times a week.

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So as usual, today's topic really came from me from a conversation with another hero.

And it had to do with intimacy.

This specific discussion started out around sex in relationship.

That's how it started. And I don't know if you guys know this, right, but sort of money and sex

are two of the most common reasons why there are disagreements and arguments and fights and

divorces eventually in relationships. And so incredibly, incredibly common issues.

In this particular case, there had been a lack of intimacy for a number of reasons for a very, very long time.

So I'm going to leave out the specific detail of how long, because once I put in details of how long, everybody goes, oh, mine's not that bad or mine's worse than that. And then the judgment starts happening more around the numbers,

let me just tell you there is no normal amount of sex in a relationship. It doesn't exist.

It's what's normal for you, what's normal for your partner based on your intimate needs,

and we're all different when it comes to that. But this discussion centered on something that to me was much, much more important once we

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