Hello, welcome to We Can Do Hard Things. Today you are going to notice that there are only two of us here. It's just Abby and me.

And what we thought we would do today is sit down together and talk to the pod squad by hearing a lot of their questions that they have in particular for me or for Abby or for both of us together and respond to you all.

This is so fun.

Is it?

Yeah, I like questions that are asked to me.

Okay, great.

Well, let's get into it, babe.

Great.

Hi, my name is Morgan.

I'm calling because I love my girlfriend very, very much, but I am concerned that she may be one of the only good things in my life and I'm letting her be that way and I just want to

understand how I can both honor this relationship and love her as deeply as I do

while also loving myself and giving space for myself.

You all are the best.

Thank you so much for this podcast and for everything.

It's so brave to be able to admit that. Yeah, I relate to Morgan. Do you? I do, I do. I remember a long time ago, we were doing an interview on here with Esther Parral and she said something that I did not resonate with in the moment but over time I have come to resonate with and she said in many relationships there is one person who is afraid of losing the other

person and there is one person who is afraid of losing herself.

And at the time it seemed like too much of an oversimplification for me to accept, but I have noticed it since then. I can see it in couples, I can see it in us.

And I recently was talking to a friend who is an artist.

And she is in the first happy relationship of her life

and it is a beautiful healthy relationship.

And it's two women and she is afraid.

She's made it through the first few months of just complete loss of identity where you just get totally soaked into the other person.

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