Look how far we've come, all the things we've done, did it all with love,

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Girl, you made my happy. All right, guys we are back and we are back Welcome back you beautiful bitches Doing a Friday episode I have no idea what we're doing I know what we're doing What we are talking about is post infidelity stress disorder.

Okay.

So I first heard of this on TikTok.

There was a Q&A happening.

A bunch of people were on stage and there was a massive crowd in like a theater.

And this chick said, I cheated years ago.

We're still together. I thought everything was great. And she came to me and said, she's not healed from it. And I don't know what to do about it. And she said, is it selfish of me

to not want to deal with this? Like, I'm healed. I thought you were healed. This is a you problem. Is that selfish of me? And the chick on stage said, did you help her heal initially? And it was like a fast and hard no. Well, not at the start. So somewhere along the line, she decided to help with that process. And the

woman on stage said, post-infidelity PTSD is a thing. And then she listed off a couple of other

things. And she said, this is going to be a reoccurring thing until you decide that you're

going to be part of this process because you were part of the process that hurt her.

Okay, but before we go any further, the issue's not, no matter what's going forward from this

point, they've lived for all of this time as if she had healed.

And then she came out of nowhere and said she hadn't healed yet.

Right.

That's the issue. That's the issue.

That's the issue in all this. Because if you would have for her or for both people involved. Okay. If you would have if you would have just went back to living life as normal and pretended like nothing happened and life just continued. Of course you're going to be blindsided when somebody comes back a year later and goes, hey, I'm still not healed from that thing. Of course you're going to want to feel selfish about it, because you've been living your life as if nothing's happened this entire time. You have the belief that your life is normal again and that all things have been forgiven and moving forward. And to have that come out of nowhere, I wouldn't want to deal with that either. I would want to know like you're like you're stealing the healing process. What do I need to do to make this right? Like how, what are we doing? I don't want to believe that our life is good and then come out of nowhere to be told that something's wrong. It's no different than us having an argument. And then, you know, thinking that we were done with the argument and six months later you bring it up, I'm like, what are you talking about? Right. You know what I mean?

So are there levels to that for you?

What do you mean?

So say something happened and there have been small conversations of like, hey, I got triggered by this day. I'm having a hard

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