Pop Star Caity Baser Breaks Silence on Assault: “I Was Just A Child"

We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

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Leisure, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 5 August 2025

⏱️ 88 minutes

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In this episode of We Need To Talk, viral pop star Caity Baser shares the unfiltered story behind her rise - from being booed off stage to performing in front of thousands, from childhood trauma to finding her voice through music. Caity opens up about growing up on a council estate in Southampton to a £50 bet that changed her life. For the first time, she speaks publicly about being assaulted at the age of 8 - how it shaped her confidence, her sense of safety, and how it impacted her relationships. She also shares a later experience of assault by someone she thought she could trust, and how it took years to fully understand what had happened. Now, through music, community, and the safety of real love, Caity is finding new ways to speak out - not just for herself, but for anyone still learning how to process what they’ve been through. Caity shares: ◽️ Why she blocked her mum - and doesn’t regret it ◽️ The story behind her most personal song, Weight Of You ◽️ How she fell in love on a music video set ◽️ Her journey with ADHD ◽️ The meaning behind the songs on her new EP Caity Baser, We Need To Talk. This episode includes discussions of sexual assault and child sexual assault. Please watch with care and find support charities here: The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/HOj44LvWZUb NAPAC:https://g2ul0.app.link/JMmqcJ90yVb Samaritans: https://g2ul0.app.link/1CRhatR7mPb CALM: https://g2ul0.app.link/YvmzhM17mPb MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Caity here: Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/OV5NPBg1yVb TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/7ydfxFj1yVb Facebook: https://g2ul0.app.link/427wz4H9yVb EP Pre Save: https://g2ul0.app.link/9oiqzyL9yVb Website: https://g2ul0.app.link/oiV4DIR9yVb (00:00) Intro (02:16) Caity's Upbringing in Southampton (05:32) Talking About Emotions When Caity Was Growing Up (10:23) Caity's Brothers and Their Support of Her Music Career (12:55) Caity's 'Grandfather' (15:15) Caity's Mum and Their Relationship Dynamic (21:40) Caity's ADHD (23:33) How Caity Began Her Music Career (33:58) Caity's Performance at Reading and Leeds Festival (36:26) Why Caity's Music Is So Popular (39:17) Caity's Thoughts on the Music Industry Today (42:20) Caity on Her Current Relationship and Falling in Love (49:37) Shopify Ad (50:42) Tinder Ad (51:53) Caity's Performance at the Capital Summertime Ball (54:00) Does Caity Feel Pressure Being Dubbed 'The Voice of Gen Z'? (56:49) The Meaning Behind the Songs on Caity's New EP (1:01:00) The Meaning Behind 'The Weight of You' (1:11:17) The Meaning Behind 'Drank You Dry' (1:20:17) Paul's Parting Gift for Caity (1:23:09) Most Memorable Conversation (1:26:10) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by:Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotal Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB ♥️ Get The Love Journal now: https://bit.ly/lovejournal-mp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I literally said no.
0:00.9	I don't want to have sex with you if you don't have a condom. And that person has been my friend, but he was like, it's happening anyway. And I remember looking at myself and being like, you are literally disgusting. She likes to be it again. We never really had any money when I was growing up, but I was like, I want to leave. I want to go to like a big city. I want to want to be a star and nobody really got it posted the video where I was singing and it was like blowing up I had a lot of nose open mic nights where people booed me so I was like no way is anyone going to turn up and see me on stage then I start hearing k-e k-k-e-k-e so for me when I went out on stage and there was all those people there, I was like, literally two of these.
0:40.8	Look at all these people that are here for me. I worked so hard.
0:44.0	What has happened in your life that's allowed you to be more vulnerable with your music?
0:49.6	You were eight years old when the assault happened.
0:53.0	My granddad's next door neighbor. Grabbed me and, like, pulled me in. When you're little, you, like, you trust an adult to, like, do the right thing and, like, make you feel safe. I had to go. Do you, like, police interviews? I was just so young. I truly believe that you are a very important voice for all generations. Katie Bacer, we need to talk.
1:12.2	Oh my God, I'm scared.
1:16.6	All right.
1:17.4	Before we begin, I want to say from the bottom of my heart, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
1:24.3	Why?
1:25.1	Because we can't believe how far we've come with this podcast. But in particular, we've come this far because of you. Your support means everything, whether it's a comment, whether it's a DM, whether I get stopped in the street, which I do and I appreciate. I just want to say how much we appreciate. And if you have not yet subscribed,
1:44.7	I want you to click the subscribe button
1:46.6	or hit that bell icon.
1:48.7	What it allows us to do is bringing
1:50.3	you more and more of these incredible conversations.
1:53.6	And that being said, let's get into it.
2:04.3	Katie Bacer, we need to talk.
2:06.3	Whoa.
2:08.0	What just happened?
2:09.0	It just happened.
2:09.8	It just started.
2:10.2	Just like that. Wow.
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