Play Hard To Get (and other bad relationship advice)

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 12 May 2020

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

Play hard to get. If you’re in the world of dating, or were at some point in your life — you’ve definitely heard the relationship advice that tells you to play hard to get. Don’t look too interested. Don’t call for at least 3 days. Make sure they don’t know how much you like them. Don’t text back right away. But is this relationship advice any good? Play Hard To Get There’s a reason why this is common relationship advice. We want to play the game of relationships, and make ourselves feel like we’re in control rather than feeling like someone is in control of us. But there are two major problems that the “play hard to get” mentality creates in relationships. Today on the podcast, I’m explaining both of those problems and why this is actually BAD relationship advice, and what you should do instead. Don’t be fooled by the play hard to get game…because you’re going to end up losing in the end. Tune in to Episode 71 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY’S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA’S NEWEST BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,
0:23.8	and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating, singleness, and marriage.
0:30.4	For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time, I'm a licensed professional
0:35.1	counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.
0:38.4	I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message
0:44.9	that healthy people make healthy relationships.
0:48.5	If you've tuned into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people
0:53.6	call in or write in with their
0:55.1	relationship questions, and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized
1:00.1	answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email or
1:05.6	voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page, truelovedates.com slash love and relationships.
1:13.8	And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get started.
1:23.2	So we're in a series that I'm calling the bad relationship advice series. And a few weeks ago on
1:29.2	Instagram, I asked you guys to submit the worst relationship advice that you've ever received from
1:34.0	someone. And let me tell you, some of the advice that came in was so bad. So we're compiling
1:42.3	some of the most common relationship advice that people have gotten that's
1:46.7	actually really bad or harmful. And we're going through them one by one, unpacking them
1:53.4	and then offering you better advice in this bad relationship series. So I hope you'll stay tuned
1:59.1	because we're about to dive in to some really bad relationship series. So I hope you'll stay tuned because we're about to dive in to some
2:01.5	really bad relationship advice.
2:10.1	As the bad relationship advice was coming in, one of the major themes that I kept seeing again and
2:16.4	again and again was the advice that you've got to play
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