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today. I think it's pretty true that everything successful requires a good

plan to begin with whether it's a business, a sports team, or a job. Planning

makes a tremendous difference and that applies to a great marriage as well. A good

relationship doesn't happen by accident. You got a plan toward it. I'm John Fuller

with Greg and Aaron Smalley and in the professional counseling y'all do. Greg,

how often do you find a lack of success is due to a lack of planning? Yeah, great

question. I think as I think about the word planning, to me it would be maybe

less about a lack of planning and more about people just being passive in their

marriage. I think what we see a lot is that people inadvertently kind of think

they can push an autopilot or trigger some sort of cruise control for for their

marriage and just send their relationship down the road thinking that okay, it's

going down the road. Now I can get involved in all these other things hobbies and

work and raising kids and friends and and yet it doesn't work that way at all. And

that sort of passivity really wreaks havoc in a relationship because all of

sudden so many years late you're going to wake up and and roll over and think man I am sleeping

next to a stranger. We've become nothing more than married roommates. And I think it's

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